Men love such a woman: 12 lessons a happy woman must take

Chapter 22 Superficially silly, women always tell lies to win men's hearts (2)
When interacting with the opposite sex, women should try their best to maintain a distance that is neither close nor far, so as to make this interaction beautiful. This is the task that life gives us, and it is a process that we must strive to complete throughout our lives.

Li Shan couldn't find a job when she graduated, and finally found the director of the personnel department of a unit through a good classmate of hers, and asked him for help.It happened that this unit lacked such talents, so Li Shan was retained, but it was not confirmed as a long-term contract worker.

After Li Shan came to this unit, she was very active in her work, and there was nothing wrong with her conduct.However, she didn't tell her classmates the news in time, maybe because she had a good relationship with her friends and it didn't make much sense to tell her or not, maybe she wanted to wait for her job to be stable before notifying her classmates, in short, it was a bridge for her The classmate had no idea that she had found a job.

At a party, the director met with that classmate of Li Shan, and the classmate knew that Li Shan had already worked in this unit.The classmate who originally planned to say good things for Li Shan felt a little unhappy after hearing the news. Let alone the good or bad of this unit, Li Shan found a job, but he didn't tell He already made him unhappy, not to mention that she was not even willing to share the joy of getting a job with him.

After this incident, this classmate began to gradually alienate Li Shan.

The director is a person who values ​​love and righteousness. When he knew that Li Shan hadn't told her classmates the news, although he didn't say anything, he knew it in his heart.She is inattentive.From then on, he looked at Li Shan differently.

Getting along with the opposite sex is a very delicate issue. Often what you think is unnecessary or unimportant is extremely important to your friends or colleagues. At least you can show how much you value them by notifying them.Therefore, when getting along with the opposite sex, you must maintain a good distance. Only a moderate distance will leave a good impression on people.

Some people may not be able to grasp the distance between people of the opposite sex, and they don't know what kind of distance is the most suitable.Then you can compare by getting along with the same sex, maybe you can find a standard that suits you to measure this degree.

In the office, people of the same sex should be treated in a friendly manner.Because everyone who comes to work in the company is for survival, everyone is under the same roof, for a common goal, and feels the same pressure. No one can do without someone at work, so if we can treat our colleagues with sympathy, Relationships will be easy to handle.

Because they are of the same sex, many feelings and views on things have something in common. Finding some topics that everyone is interested in is a way to show friendship.Of course, you can take the attitude of "work partner" to some same-sex partners who you think are not speculative. Such people don't need her to be close; if you can develop a further friendship relationship, you might as well communicate more, but your own negative emotions are the most important. It's better not to appear in front of female friends, because once you expose your truest emotions to her.Then one day, when you are unhappy, these words that you once thought were innocuous may become her weapon to attack you.

At the same time, in the workplace, it is not necessary to treat all women as "potential factors" that can be cultivated as friends.You don't have to make a fuss when you see colleagues making small reports.If she is only doing it for her own benefit, then she can ignore it completely and just regard it as "improper handling of the incident" and judge it as having no benefit to her personal future character development.Everyone will not work in the same company for a lifetime, everyone is just passing by, and attention deserves your attention.Learning what is worth learning is enough.

When interacting with the opposite sex, you should adopt a generous and non-frivolous attitude. This is a very important principle in working with the opposite sex. Handle some affairs in the office by respecting the relationship that the other party is a work partner of the opposite sex.Will make some complex things a little easier.Never treat heterosexual relationships in the office as expected from a "romance" or develop a closer relationship with one opposite sex than any other.It's another thing to be friends after get off work, but you must distinguish between "urgent and important" relationships in the office.

Male colleagues have the distress of male colleagues, and female colleagues have the distress of female colleagues. They may be overwhelmed with work, may stagnate due to too much resistance to career development, and may be frustrated by family disputes.Most colleagues will show an evasive attitude when encountering this situation. In fact, as long as you say "I will help you", your colleagues may be very grateful.When he (she) is in trouble, or when everyone is afraid to approach, if you can help him (her) regardless of the cost, you can imagine the gratitude in his (her) heart.

Therefore, maintaining a suitable distance to get along with the opposite sex can not only keep your beauty, but also let others feel your charm. Wouldn’t it be fun?
If you still can't determine the distance you should get along with the opposite sex, you might as well refer to the research on interpersonal relationship and distance by an American anthropologist.He believes that human relationships can be judged by eight distances.

1.Close distance, close type (0 meters): This distance is for caressing, fighting, comforting and protecting.

2.Close distance, closer type (0-15 meters): This is the distance that can be reached, the distance between companions who are relatively close, and the distance between people in a crowded tram. distance.

3．个体距离，接近型（0．45～0．75米）：能够拥抱或抓住对方的距离，对于对方的表情一目了然。夫妻处于这种位置是自然的。

4．个体距离，稍近型（0．75～1．20米）：这是双方同时伸手才能触及到的距离，这是对人有所要求时应有的一种距离。

5.Social distance, close type (1-20 meters): This is beyond the limit of physical contact, and it is a distance between colleagues when doing business.Keeping this distance gives people an elegant and solemn temperament.

6．社会距离。远离型（2．10～3．60米）：这是为便于工作保持的距离，工作时既可以不受他人影响，又不给别人增添麻烦。

7．公众距离，接近型（3．60～7，50米）：如果保持4米左右的距离，说明说话人与听话人之间有许多问题或思想有待解决与交流。

8.Public distance, remote type (above 7 meters): This is a distance used in speeches, without disturbing each other.

You play different roles in society and you have to choose different distances to stand in front of men. Only in this way can you let the other party have the psychology you want him to have, so as to get what you want.

As a woman, the physical and psychological distance you choose to keep with the opposite sex will affect your success in career and life.A moderate distance not only allows you to have a beautiful mood when getting along with the opposite sex.At the same time, it will also have an immeasurable effect on your career.

unclassic hints of love

Facing the man you like, should you confess your love to him?A lot of girls are hesitant about this.Women who long for happiness and happiness don't hesitate any longer, look at your watch, youth doesn't wait for slow people.If the mountain doesn't come to you, why don't you go to the mountain?Give him a chance and let you get the love you want!Maybe, he is thinking hard, how to get your heart?
1.Know the enemy and know yourself, you will never be imperiled in a hundred battles
If you don't know him well, then you have to quickly find out what type of girls he often associates with, because that basically represents his love tendency.If most of the girls he hangs out with are quiet and gentle, you should never play Sassy.In the same way, if the girls he associates with are lively and cheerful, you don't want to look weak.But it should be clear that love is only to let the other party see their own advantages and sincerity to change, not to completely change yourself.Keep your distinctive features, that's where your charm lies!
2.Build plank roads in the open, cross Chencang secretly
Don't be afraid of him saying no, just ask him to do something for you.If he is good at writing, you can ask him to help you revise and polish some report summaries; if he likes pets, you can suggest that the two of you should raise a pet together.These things the two do together can create an opportunity for both parties to participate, and at the same time, can also prepare some topics for future chats.When there are more and more topics, have you noticed that your relationship is undergoing subtle changes?
A girl said: "I got to know it first. Then I got to know him. He often took that puppy for a walk in the park at night, and then I became good friends with it, and then I became good friends with him." Friend. One day when we were resting on the bench, I patted the puppy and said to it, "Tell your master that you still need a mistress to take care of you. "

3.Create something out of nothing, soldiers never tire of cheating
On weekend nights, I called him pitifully and told him: "That stalker is bothering me again, can you come and rescue me from the sea of ​​suffering?" is the real purpose.After your friend said goodbye, you said gratefully, "I'm really sorry for delaying your date with your girlfriend. Why don't you ask her out to play with you?" He said you don't have a girlfriend?Ha, congratulations, take advantage of the opportunity.

4. "Curve to save the country"

Use this trick if you are a very shy girl.Ask your most trusted friend to express your love in a tactful manner, which not only saves the face of the two of you, but also avoids the embarrassment of confronting them directly.If you don't want to tell others about your privacy, then go and inquire about his QQ number or mailbox, and cultivate your relationship!The Internet will neither let the other party notice your shy stuttering, nor let him see the tears that burst out of your eyes when the other party refuses.

5.hold hands

In fact, you don't understand the art of the five elements, but you pretended to be a charlatan, grabbed his hand, "I'll show you the physiognomy," and babbled nonsense.

Then I stretched out my hand to show him, "Please pay attention to my palm print and your palm print." He said that he put his palm and his together in a serious manner.

"Do you know what this is called?" You pretended to be deep, and then said, "This is called heart-to-heart bond."

6. Knowledge of borrowing books

You often go to him to borrow books. What's interesting is that the book you borrowed is still borrowed like a new book, and you are very interested in asking him how the book is.He will ask you: "No matter how much you borrow a book, you can't borrow it? I have borrowed a book several times." You can plausibly say: "I did it on purpose, or you really think I like your book!"

7.clever use of photos

The girl fell in love with him in her sophomore year, but she didn't know if he felt the same way as herself.So, she reproduced and enlarged a photo of him and put it on her desk.When he came to play, she let him sit down at the table, and then went out on the pretext of washing apples.When he was flipping through the books and periodicals on the table, he naturally saw the photo of himself below. He was surprised, but actually very happy.She can see it.At this time, she leaned over to apologize and said, "I'm sorry. I just did it if I liked it. If you're not happy, I'll take it out right away." But he hurriedly said, "No, no, it's fine. Actually, my family There are better ones, I'll bring them to you tomorrow!" In this situation, she was sure of her feelings.

8. Distance and Love

They have been dating for a long time, but since neither of them said a word of love, she has no idea about the relationship with him.One day when they went out to eat, they used to sit opposite each other, but that time she purposely sat beside him.A subtle change has narrowed the distance between the two, and he is naturally very clear about her feelings.That day he was very excited and talked a lot. The closer the distance seemed to increase his courage, he also put his hands on her shoulders, and leaned over his face to whisper, and she took advantage of the situation to bury her head in his arms.Their love can reach heaven, thanks to the change of distance.

9.fall on purpose

One time when she was walking in the park, she wanted to test the progress of her relationship with him, so she made an "ouch" as if she was about to fall, and he hugged her instinctively.She beat his chest and said coquettishly: "You are bad, you are bad!" But he hugged him even tighter and said, "There are worse things." This was the first time he kissed her, and his feelings naturally returned. After taking a step forward, she was relieved.

10.false alarm

They had dinner together, and she made an exception for the wine glass.After drinking for three rounds, she revealed to him: "There is a man chasing me." He immediately became anxious, "You must think twice before acting, and don't be hungry." "He is very good." He became even more anxious, "Could it be Didn't you notice that the man dangling in front of your eyes is even better?"

If the mountain doesn't come to you, why don't you go to the mountain?give him a chance.Get the love you want!Perhaps, he is thinking hard, how to get your heart!
wife's identity lover's heart

Watt Dunloe is one of the greatest orators in the United States, and his wife is the daughter of former presidential candidate James Blaine.The two have lived an enviably happy life since they met at Anzu Carnegie's home in Scotland.

Mrs. Deng Luzhi said: "One thing to pay attention to in choosing a partner is to put courteousness before marriage. I hope that young ladies will treat their husbands with the same courtesy as strangers! If you are aggressive, any man will be judged by you. scared off."

Although Mrs. Deng Luzhi's words are short, they reveal the reason why many people are unhappy in their marriages.Many women are caring and courteous to their boyfriends before they get married. They always treat their other half with a lover's heart, but the situation has changed too much after marriage.A red certificate changes her status from a lover to a wife. With the change of status, a woman's attitude towards her significant other inevitably changes.Although the love before marriage is still there, the polite and romantic heart between lovers has disappeared.Instead, they deny and complain about their husband's ability.

"Why don't you make more money? Bill Smith has been promoted twice, you only once."

"My brother can afford a fur coat for his wife - that's because they know how to make money."

Such discourse is often the most destructive weapon against a marriage.No man would like to complain, complain, compare, belittle, ridicule, chatter, like nagging and critical women.After a woman becomes a wife, if she only knows how to nagging, such as "I don't know when I will be able to live in a new house as good as Ahao's house..." Then when she reaches the age of 40, she will definitely become a helpless woman. Salvational, unsatisfactory, unlovable whining specialist.

Dorothy Dix once said: "It is very surprising, but it is absolutely true. The only people who say nasty, hurtful things to us are people in our own family." He I think that more than half of all marriages are unhappy, and one of the reasons why many romantic dreams become fantasy after marriage is criticism-useless, but heartbreaking criticism.

Some women may not be able to tolerate some problems exposed in personality, family, etc., but they feel that they cannot solve these problems, so they naturally spread their anger on those closest to them, especially their husbands.

Therefore, if you want to maintain a happy marriage, then please use your identity as a wife and the heart of a lover to care for your significant other.If you do this, then you are bound to reap rich rewards.

For a period of time, I was very proud. I was usually reticent, but I always received gifts from relatives or friends.Although those gifts don't look very expensive, they always fill my heart with gratitude and make my beautiful young wife jealous.She couldn't figure out how I got all these popularity.

(End of this chapter)