Men love such a woman: 12 lessons a happy woman must take

Chapter 23 Superficially silly, women always tell lies to win men's hearts (3)
In those days, I was very busy, either hiding in the house to write a book, or being entangled in affairs. Only after ten o'clock in the evening did I have the opportunity to spend a little time with my wife.My wife didn't say anything, she did what she had to do, and she served me comfortably with three meals a day.I'm used to it. It seems that life is supposed to be like this. I accept what my wife has done calmly, and I don't feel anything special.

One day, the wife and sister came to the door, and the two sisters hid in the house and chatted for a long time.After the meal, my wife and sister suddenly walked up to me with a smile on my face, and my heart was warmed by a big brother's shout: "Look, my sister is really, it's so cold, and I still ask you to wear an old sweater, I don't know It hurts me. I said a lot about her." After finishing speaking, my wife and sister took out a carefully knitted woolen sweater from behind and put it in front of my eyes: "Brother, I knitted one for you to see if it fits well. .”

The wife seemed to be unable to hold back on one side of her face: "Go and go, if you have the time to send flowers to your love brother who is a manager in the mall, why come here to make trouble." The wife and sister were not to be outdone: "You don't love a great writer? Don't let me hurt, he is a precious asset of the country." As he spoke, my wife and sister quickly put the woolen sweater on me, which was quite suitable.

In an instant, I had a brand-new feeling: it is indeed a wonderful thing to be cared for and cared for by someone, and it would be great if my wife was like this.

Later, regardless of the expression on my wife's face, I put on that woolen sweater all day with peace of mind. I felt the warmth of being cared for from the bottom of my heart.

Valentine's Day has come to us without knowing it.To be honest, I am not tempted by this kind of foreign stuff. I feel that it is against the traditional Chinese culture, and I am somewhat dismissive.However, what flattered me and couldn't believe it was that someone sent me a beautiful bouquet of roses on Valentine's Day.The roses were delivered to my home by the staff of the florist. My wife and I were suspicious and the other was at a loss.There was also a small piece of paper attached to the bouquet of roses, full of hot love words, which made my wife stare straight at me, while I broke out in a cold sweat.

Oh my god, when I encountered such a thing, I couldn't wash it off even if I jumped into the Yellow River.Unexpectedly, the wife seemed very magnanimous: "Heh, I didn't expect my husband to be taken care of by someone. It seems that the charm of our family's talents has not diminished. Back then, I really didn't get dazzled."

After my wife gave me such a bouquet, I was overwhelmed. For this bouquet of roses, for this unexpected friendship, and for the girl who gave me flowers, I think I should thank life.This distant and strange touch has since become a ray of sunshine in my life, making me taste the taste of happiness again and feel the beauty of love again.Yes, we are often moved by the friendship and care of some strange friends, and we will even remember a smile, just because he once smiled kindly to ourselves in our most difficult time.

One of the most expensive gifts I have ever received was from a friend of mine.He is my alumnus, and we study poetry and composition together, which can be described as a good relationship.What he gave me was a set of expensive fashion, and I still can't figure out its origin and price.My friend just told me softly: "This suit is indeed very expensive. Don't ask me why I gave you this suit. You just need to think that we are friends."

I couldn't accept it, and my friend kept me silent: "A gentleman loves things, and he gets them in a proper way, and he didn't pick them secretly, so it doesn't matter if he wears them." Unable to withstand my friend's kindness, I took the fashion back carefully.After asking my wife to look at it, I only dare to put it in the most conspicuous place in the closet, but I dare not wear it in the street.

Yes, some things cannot be exchanged with money, such as moving, money alone is not enough.My wife seemed lost, and she told me more than once: "You shouldn't put that timepiece in the closet. You should wear it and walk on the street with your head held high."

However, I dare not, I think wearing it may betray the friendship, I want to keep this touch in my heart.soon.A friend called: "Old classmate, have you worn that fashion? How is it? Does it still fit?"

I was taken aback, and hurriedly said: "You gave me such an expensive fashion, I dare not wear it."

The friend smiled: "To tell you the truth, my sister-in-law bought the fashion for you. She said something that I can't forget until now. Guess what she said."

I'm confused, what tricks my wife is doing, it's not a prank.

Seeing that I was quiet, my friend couldn't help it: "My sister-in-law said that a man will be very touched when he receives a blessing from a stranger, but if his wife gives him a valuable gift, even if the wife is sincere, Will he still be moved?"

The old friend finally said: "Remember, only the person who loves you all your life is the person who moves you the most."

Suddenly, my vision was blurred, and the voice on the other end of the phone disappeared.I thought of the woolen sweater my wife and sister gave me. The unique pattern could only be created by my wife who teaches art?I thought of the bouquet of roses on Valentine's Day. How could a romantic wife let go of such an opportunity?My wife has given me a lot of warmth, but as a husband, how often will I be moved by it and give my wife a sweet kiss?

A pair of arms stretched out and gently wrapped around my waist from behind.It's my wife, her slender hands are very touching, and my tears flowed drop by drop on my wife's hands.I have been forever moved by a woman, and this woman is my wife.

I know that only she will give me a gift forever. The gift she gave me can't be bought or taken away. It is a woman's promise of love and the whole of life.

This is a man's true confession. After reading his words, I just want to ask the women of today, are you moved?

I can't hear their answers, but I believe that every woman who has love in her heart will not be indifferent to this.Every woman treats her husband differently and receives different love responses.

When trivial matters in life become the starting point of friction between husband and wife, as a wife, will you choose to accuse your husband or use gentleness to dissolve his anger and fill the gap between you?Of course, there is another option for this multiple-choice question, which is to provoke a cold war between you.Choose any of them, and you will get different results. Choosing to blame may allow you to vent your anger temporarily, but it can also provoke greater anger in your husband; choose gentleness, even if the husband is arrogant and unreasonable, His anger will also become invisible under your gentle palm; if you choose a cold war, although the two will calm down gradually, after a long time, it will inevitably build an insurmountable gap between them.

If you are married, I believe you already know how to choose among these three options.

Many people think that a lover is not equal to a wife, and a wife cannot be equal to a lover.In fact, it is not the case, as long as you want, you can have two jobs at once, combining the identities of wife and lover into one.When you treat your partner as a wife and as a lover, then you and your husband will not be the protagonists in the extramarital affair.

Pretend to be confused and be a smart "stupid" woman

There is a saying in the "Bible": "You have a speck in your own eye, how can you say to your brother: Let me take the speck out of your eye!" First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you can see clearly. Remove the speck from your brother's eye. the thorn.Some women are unfortunate because they are too serious and too shrewd in everything.

Wang Xifeng, Jia Lian's wife, she is smart and capable, won the trust of Jia's mother and Mrs. Wang, and became the actual housekeeper of Jia's mansion.

Wang Xifeng was a woman who was both beautiful and intelligent, but in the end, such a rare woman betrayed her relatives and died in desolation.The reason is that because of her excessive intelligence, she ended up in the end of "the organ was too clever, and it cost Qingqing's life".

There are some women in life who lack experience in life, but have too high requirements for life. They want a result in everything, and they want to figure out: Why do friends "wear small shoes" for themselves?What kind of friends did the boyfriend make outside?Why does the boss treat a certain female colleague better than himself?There are some women who act one way after another, bullying others and flattering others, tactful and sophisticated, when the crisis comes, they will cross rivers and demolish bridges, bite back, or care about everything. no.Such a woman thinks she is very smart, and she is happy to make people feel that she is "smart".These seemingly smart women are actually very stupid.

In fact, really smart women don't show off their shrewdness in everything. They often pretend to be deaf and dumb, rarely confused. They look dull, but in fact they are as cunning and mysterious as foxes.Because they know that women who are "stupid" will stay away from many troubles, live a happier life, and will not be wrinkled by the trivialities of life.

Liu Gang, a young man who works in the R&D department of a joint venture company, explained the fundamental reason why "stupid" women are cute:

I especially like playing poker. When I have free time, I invite my girlfriend and another pair of confidantes to go to the tea house, and play 2v2 to upgrade.The worst thing is, my former girlfriend who graduated from the Department of Mathematics is very good at playing cards, she is aggressive, and she is not forgiving. It's very embarrassing in front of me.Originally playing cards is to relax.But if she messed it up, it turned into doing homework, brainstorming, and thankless work.Later, we broke up, of course not for such trivial things as playing cards.However, as you can imagine, her self-confidence and sharp personality will also be reflected in other things, so I had to get away with it.

Now that I have a girlfriend again, I still go to play cards together when I have time, but the atmosphere is different now: I occasionally make a mistake in a card, and my girlfriend will smile tolerantly or make a face; Secretly pass me the password.If I won the card, my girlfriend clapped and cheered; if I lost the card, she wanted to punish me, but this kind of punishment made me feel more comfortable than the reward—she wanted me to send her back and carry her up to the second floor.to her door.So I sometimes lose on purpose!There are many other stupid things about her, for example, she would spend a whole day making birthday cards for me instead of spending a few minutes in the store to buy them; for example, she is very good at dressing up, but never let me go shopping with her, she said When two people are together, they must do what both of them are willing to do.I also especially like to see her smile, it is a sincere and brilliant smile, compared with those girls who have a deliberate or sly smile in their smiles, it is so stupid that I can't help but make me cherish her deeply.

"Stupid" women are lovable.They will use true feelings to win friendship. Although not every "true feeling" can win friendship, they know that tolerance is like water, tolerance is like fire, and tolerance is poetry.

"Stupid" women are not always outstanding compared with shrewd women.But men want to marry "stupid" women as lifelong partners, and stay away from shrewd women.Because men feel that they can't afford to be served.Men like the carelessness of "stupid" women, and they are willing to put their feelings into it, without worrying about being cheated and losing money.Men would rather give more satisfaction to "stupid" women who are easy to satisfy, rather than give more satisfaction to shrewd women whose desires are hard to satisfy.Men like "stupid" women's sense of trust in people. Such women are sensible and don't entangle, and don't need to explain everything. "Stupid" women are very innocent, and they won't make men feel afraid of sophisticated opponents like they would deal with hunters.

In short, in the eyes of men, a "stupid" woman is extremely cute, and her stupidity is their favorite.Their feelings are willing to be mobilized by stupid women, and they will never provoke smart women who are extremely shrewd, although they have enough intelligence to deal with it.Men are more willing to give a "stupid" woman a warm and affluent home, because she will not persecute or threaten men.Men feel that their love for her comes naturally and easily, so men are willing to achieve the happiness of "stupid" women.

Of course, the "stupidity" of a "stupid" woman is not really stupid, it's just that she played a little trick.

For the men around them, women have a strong ability to distinguish, true or false, they are very clear, but many times they pretend to be confused, pretending not to understand, in order to give the relationship an illusory beauty, and give the years of love together A smile brings comfort to a life that has experienced many ups and downs.

Liu Yang broke up with his girlfriend who had been in love for three years because the girlfriend wanted to go abroad, so she fell in love with a foreigner.This made Liu Yang very angry. He believed that women are fickle animals and are not reliable at all. He no longer believed in love and devoted himself to his career.In less than two years, he had his own company.

In Liu Yang's view, there are four types of women: the first type is beautiful in appearance, but most of these women are vases.The second type has a pungent personality. They act vigorously and decisively, and never procrastinate. They are suitable for friends at work.The third type is very utilitarian. He can give up everything for money or future. His former girlfriend falls into this category.The fourth type is gentle and considerate. They are smart but will pretend to be stupid. Playing stupid is to take care of the man's face and self-esteem. Playing stupid is a kind of tolerance. Tolerance of some small mistakes made by men makes men full of them. grateful.He likes the last one the most, but he feels that there are so few such girls in life that they almost don't exist.

Later, through a friend's introduction, he met Yuanyuan, and he was surprised to find that Yuanyuan belonged to the type of girl he liked.

At friends' gatherings, he likes to talk about the sea and the sky, and Yuanyuan always looks at him with approving eyes.But after the party, he would receive "prescriptions" from Yuanyuan, and those notes were sometimes hidden in his pocket.Sometimes caught in the book, the above words and sentences tactfully correct some of his statements.Liu Yang naturally appreciates her gentle approach and hard work, and is grateful at the same time.

What moved him the most was that she actually forgave him for an emotional mistake by pretending to be stupid.

When Liu Yang and Yuanyuan dated for more than a year, he proposed to Yuanyuan, and then they started buying a house to get married.But just a month before they were going to get married, the girlfriend who had been in love with him for three years called him back and said that he wanted to see him.This made Liu Yang hesitate. He thought that he was bathed in the sunshine of Yuanyuan's love, and he had forgotten the woman who abandoned him for going abroad.But he couldn't lie to himself, he still had her place in his heart, he began to waver, he told himself that he was just meeting her, as long as he didn't let Yuanyuan know, it wouldn't hurt her.

So, in order to meet her, he made up many lies that he had to work overtime, and later went to Hainan with her under the pretext of a business trip.There, the ex-girlfriend told him that the man who once wanted to take her abroad disappeared after he went to the United States.Now, she regards Liu Yang as a life-saving straw again.He must help with Canadian skilled immigration.And planning their future.Liu Yang suddenly realized that the woman in front of him was so capricious and selfish, incomparable to the considerate Yuanyuan. Thinking of this, he felt very regretful.

He didn't dare to call Yuanyuan, so he called his mother, who said, "Yuanyuan is so nice, I don't feel well today, and she came to give me an infusion. Son, Yuanyuan is a good child, and you are not young anymore." , You must know how to cherish it." Liu Yang agreed with his mouth, but his heart was even more uncomfortable.Mom asked again: "That's right. Did your child bully her? I saw her eyes were red and swollen. I asked her what was going on, and she said she had a fight with a colleague. I don't think so. How could a girl as good as her Are you having trouble with your colleagues?" Liu Yang suddenly shuddered, and all the colleagues in the company knew about it.How could Yuanyuan not know?Thinking of this, Liu Yang suddenly became afraid. For the first time, he felt so afraid of losing her.

After a sleepless night, he flew back to Beijing early the next morning. On the plane, he made a firm and decisive decision, that is, to reject all kinds of requests made by his ex-girlfriend. This seemed to be the first time he rejected her.When he got off the plane, he saw Yuanyuan with red and swollen eyes, still pretending to be very happy to welcome him, which made him feel a burst of heartache.He understood what she meant, didn't say anything, just hugged Yuanyuan tightly into his arms, he thought: In this whole life, he doesn't want Yuanyuan to worry about him anymore.He wants to love her well and give her happiness.

After Yuanyuan found out that her boyfriend made a mistake, she didn't yell and curse, but pretended not to know, tolerated her boyfriend's mistake, gave him a chance to love again and gave herself another chance, but she got the other's sincerity.

Smart "stupid" women know that men are both strong and fragile animals, and they value honor and face more than life.Therefore, they know what forbidden areas are in a man's spiritual world, and they will always pretend to be stupid to avoid them.In order not to hurt the man's dignity.Men, on the other hand, are mostly rational, and they would appreciate a woman being so understanding.And give more love.The other party's sincerity.

(End of this chapter)