Men love such a woman: 12 lessons a happy woman must take

Chapter 30 I am alone in the world, a woman should live with her demeanor (1)
Many women have admirable self-confidence and freedom. They don't complain or envy how exciting other people's lives are, but face every minute and every second of life in a self-styled way, and very Rarely change for other things.Because they know that their happiness and joy do not lie in the evaluation of others, but in their own inner feelings.Therefore, they seldom care about other people's words and eyes, but walk in the world with a self-styled attitude, and issue such a happy declaration: If you want to live, live with style!

It is better to envy the scenery of others than to construct the scenery
The reason why "bad" women are a bit bad is that they are more authentic and more confident than those praised good women. It is precisely because of this that they will not wrong themselves in many cases, let alone gain They deliberately do something contrary to their intentions because of the praise of others.That's why, when some women envy the beauty and happiness of others, they don't feel how unfortunate they are, but instead say: Why envy others?Isn't it more exciting to live according to your own meaning?

This is what they said, and they also did so. They lived with their own will and their true colors unscrupulously, and wrote their own magnificent chapters of life.It is a pity that in many cases, some women do not have the freedom and self-confidence of bad women. They always long to be other people, to be the person they admire, and this idea has plagued them for a long time, making them miserable.In fact, each of us has its own potential creativity in our individuality, image and personality, and there is absolutely no need for us to admire and envy others, because it is very likely that we ourselves are also the object of envy and want to be.A woman who lives her own life truly and with a bit of arrogance absolutely believes this.

They think that they should be grateful for their coming to this world, and even more happy for their uniqueness in this world. They feel that they can use everything that nature bestows on them to create their own.Generally speaking, all art has some autobiographical color, you sing, paint, read, are all activities you are willing to engage in, you can only be yourself, be a self created by your environment and family .For better or worse, you are creating your own little garden; For better or worse, you are playing your own instrument in the symphony of life; For better or worse, you are counting your own footprints on the long road of life .

When Mary first entered the American broadcasting industry, she tried to be an Irish comedian and failed.She later abandoned all imitation and affectation and concentrated on being herself. She showed the innocent, down-to-earth side of an ordinary country girl from Missouri, and she became the most popular radio star in New York.

Therefore, "bad" women think that envy is ignorance, and imitation is suicidal. Abandoning their unique characteristics and wanting to be another kind of person will be like a tiger instead of an anti-dog.

Indeed, beautiful faces are all similar, but different beauty comes from different temperaments and charms of women.Before God, women have the same wealth, so, what determines the fate of women?is character.Character determines destiny, your character determines how you live and whether you can succeed.Personality seems to be a normalized charm.Clothes can't change it, the environment can't cover it, emotions can't obliterate it, and atmosphere can't change it. It sticks to its own "territory", sticks to its own unique style, and sticks to its special style that distinguishes itself from others, like the pair of bright moons. Qingchi is like a mountain against the sun.

People have received different education and training, experienced different times and events, and gradually formed their own unique characters.In different periods and in different environments, everyone may carry out a conscious transformation of personality, with the help of self-learning and self-cultivation, to develop what they think is a good character quality.The quality of character and quality determines the quality of the individual to a large extent, and determines whether a person can achieve a career in his life.If a person does not make efforts to restrain and perfect the flaws in personality, and does not carry out conscious "character transformation", then the flaws in personality will tend to be stereotyped, which will bring troubles to life and work, and even ruin career or career. future.

In real life, many people say that "the country is easy to change, but the nature is difficult to change", and they use this as an excuse to be unwilling to change their personality. This statement is not comprehensive.The development of personal character has the effect of genetic factors, but to a greater extent it is formed after the day after tomorrow. Among them, environmental factors have an influence that cannot be underestimated on the formation of character.Therefore, personality is not difficult to change. As long as you have the determination and master the correct method, you can cultivate a good personality.

French materialist thinker Holbach pointed out: "Human personality is not only the product of the surrounding social environment and social practice, but also constantly changes with the changes of various environments and social practices."

A large number of facts have proved that Holbach's thesis is very correct.Personality is a product of personal life, self-education and constant practice.Therefore, paying attention to personality cultivation can enable women to shape good personal qualities, open up a broad career path, and realize the value of life.

The bad woman tells us that as a girl, as long as you stick to your own personality, you will also be a wonderful flower in the garden of the world.Everything in the world cannot be imitated and is unique.As a member of a big family of women, you are also unique in this world.

Not afraid of not being pretty.I'm afraid I have no personality

For those happy and happy "bad" women, there is more or less a little bit of rebellion in their bones.Refuse to be like her from the bottom of my heart.They absolutely believe that there is only one me in this world, and if they want to live, they must live out their own style, which is why, in the eyes of some people, such "bad" women have a lot of personality.

Indeed, these "bad" women are good at dancing the beauty of their own personality, which makes people look at them with admiration.

Jasmine and Xiao Xiao are good friends, and they have always had a good relationship from elementary school to middle school. Even after they each had boyfriends, they kept seeing each other often.The two of them have distinct personalities and each has its own beauty.

Jasmine, with a slender oval face.With flowing long hair, thick and dark long eyelashes and a slender figure, she has attracted attention everywhere since she was a child.When she was only a fifteen or sixteen-year-old girl, someone chased her on the street and asked her, "Miss, are you interested in taking a group of photos for our photo studio?"

However, Jasmine's beauty is not only reflected in her appearance, she is also a versatile and talented woman, and as her name suggests, she likes to express herself and show off her personality.A few people always look at her with jealous eyes, saying that she is a showy person, but most people appreciate her for being assertive, doing things neatly, and having a positive and enthusiastic attitude towards life.

Xiao Xiao is younger than Jasmine, whether it is from the clothes she wears, to the way she behaves, this girl is very memorable.

She was always surrounded by boys who pursued her, and Jasmine called them "Xiao Xiao's Sunflowers".Because Xiao Xiao is playful, young, energetic, plus cute, beautiful, and happy, it feels like a ray of summer sunshine.Bright, crisp and cheerful!
Xiao Xiao's dressing is definitely in line with the characteristics of the new era, and tends to be neutral. She has medium-length hair, a loose T-shirt with jeans, and sneakers. "Cool" with a bit of "Coffee" taste, fashion and personality, avant-garde and healthy.

Xiao Xiao's naughty, cute and cute way of thinking and habits and hobbies are also deeply imprinted with this era.I really like movies, love anime, and I am curious and interested in all new things, willing to try and experience.

Xiao Xiao's principles of life are: "No pretense, no pretense, no ostentation, no pretense, no embarrassing yourself, no forcing others. Don't feel, just be real; don't be painful, just be happy!"

In fact, it's not just Xiao Xiao, why isn't Jasmine like this?Straightforwardness, casualness, simplicity, happiness, and authenticity are their common characteristics, and at the same time, they also shape their different personalities.

Human personality has a certain degree of plasticity, which can change more or less with the diversity and changes of the real environment, in which self-regulation plays a very important role.Do you want to be a mesmerizing "bad girl"?Now that you think about it, why not start to shape your own charming personality and show the beauty of your own personality from now on?

Yabin Colliss, a famous American female image design master, said in the book "Women's Personality and Image":
Human personality is very simple to say, but in fact it is a difficult problem for a person to improve his life quality.Because the cultivation of personality is not something that happens overnight, but a comprehensive expression of a person's long-term spiritual temperament, behavior, and emotional characteristics.Without personality, a person will be mediocre, let alone outstanding.As a modern woman, one should know that beautiful clothes can be bought with money, but personality cannot be bought from the store with money.It is a kind of whether one's good words and deeds are tasteful and can attract people's mental outlook.Beauty is lovely, but if you cultivate a real beauty of personality, then the beauty of your image will be more touching.

In fact, when every woman understands the relationship between the beauty of personality and the beauty of image, you might as well seize this issue and look for the gene of beautiful image from your own personality, maybe you will get unexpected results.

Women need to do the following to show your charming personality:
1.You should show strong concern and interest in other people's life and work
It is worth noting that each person sees himself or herself as a special individual, that each person wants to be valued, and that we should recognize each person's unique value.If you show enough concern for others, people will definitely reciprocate you. They will say that you are "a very nice person, very enthusiastic, very caring and considerate", and praise your benefits everywhere. .In this way, wouldn't you be able to become a person that everyone loves?

2.Health, vitality and a rich imagination will also make you look charming and lovely.

Everyone likes a person who is full of vigor and vitality, but no one likes a person who is listless and lifeless.A relaxed and lively woman can bring a breath of fresh air to the people around, and the people and atmosphere around you will also change due to your infection. I believe everyone will love you for this.

3.To be tolerant is the most important thing for a woman to shape her charming personality.

Everyone wants to be accepted by others, to be able to get along with others easily, and to be with people who can accept themselves.Those women who find faults in others and find fault with them will definitely not be popular.Therefore, you must not try to ask others to act in accordance with your own standards, but give the other party sufficient freedom and make the people around you feel at ease.Especially between husband and wife, a wife must be able to tolerate everything about her husband, including his strengths and weaknesses, love him and trust him, so that he will accept any challenges from the outside world with confidence.A woman who can accommodate her husband will definitely get double love and affection from her husband; on the contrary, if the wife just nagging and complaining when the husband returns home, his self-confidence and self-esteem will be greatly hit and he will become depressed. I even lost patience with my wife.Picking each other's faults and causing the relationship to break down is not a good ending.

No wonder a big entrepreneur revealed his secret of employing people: before wanting to promote someone, first investigate his wife. This is not to investigate whether she is pretty or not, but whether she can cook. Her husband is full of confidence.

4.good at seeing the good in others
Always see the strengths of others, and praise the strengths that they don't even realize. This can make the person being praised very happy. How can he not think you are a considerate and attractive woman? ?That is to say, we can't just stop at accepting and tolerating the shortcomings of others, but also go further to find out the strengths of others.Everyone must have little-known advantages, as long as you have the heart, it is not difficult to discover.

That's right, unique beauties are more attractive, they are cheerful, free, and insist on living their lives in their own way.Perhaps it is this confidence in life that makes them more romantic and tender, and makes them full of unique personalities.A good-looking beauty is not an attractive woman if she has no personality.A woman's instant expression, wording in conversation, or makeup and clothing, coupled with her personal style, will make people's eyes bright and be attracted by her eye-catching personality.

I am the queen of my own kingdom

In many cases, women are indeed worthy of learning from those "bad" women, learning the spirit and consciousness of "bad" women's independence, and understanding that your life is up to you, and no one can replace you.In your territory, only you are the master.You might as well shout to yourself like them: "I am the master of my territory".

He Guoying, an ordinary female graduate student, used her short life full of hardships to explain to people the true meaning of "strength".

In the afternoon of 1997, He Guoying from the countryside was admitted to Guangxi University.The rich and free university life brought infinite happiness to this rural girl.However, the ruthless illness gave this young girl a blow. During an examination, she found that she had rectal cancer.

Faced with such bad news, she did not give up her life. In her belief, no one can deprive her of the right to life.A life-and-death struggle against the disease finally ended with He Guoying's victory.After a period of treatment, this strong girl quickly recovered.

In 2001, she successfully graduated and found a job as she wished.Although she is a cancer recovery patient, she is motivated and is preparing for the postgraduate entrance examination while working. In 2002, He Guoying was admitted to the College of Animal Science and Technology of Guangxi University as a graduate student with excellent results. He studied under Professor Xia Zhongsheng and focused on animal nutrition and feed science.

But just when she was about to climb the peak of life, God once again extended the claws of bad luck to her. Soon after entering school, her cancer cells began to metastasize to her lungs.The subject she chose was unconventional farming, which requires a lot of physical labor.However, even in the face of such a predicament, people have never heard her complain, and she still chooses to face the attack of the disease with a smile.

In June 2005, He Guoying ushered in her dissertation defense and at the same time the final stage of her life. Facing the ward defense plan formulated by the school for her, she resolutely chose to go back to school to defend.One month after completing her defense, this strong girl smiled and said "thank you" before leaving this world.

It is true that people cannot control the length of life, but they can choose what color to fill their own life template.He Guoying's life is so short, but she used her own life to write the word "strong", and these two words will never fade.

But we cannot deny it.Around us, there are still some people like this. They take their parents' hard-earned money, and although they also shout the slogan "I am the master of my territory", they are actually squandering their parents' hard-earned money endlessly. squandering his youth.

Perhaps many college students have encountered such a thing when they entered school:
In the first class of entrance education, the old professor who was nearly sixty years old asked them such a question: "Everyone here, you have been admitted to this college from thousands of miles away. Students who came to the school to register alone, please Raise your hand." There were very few people who raised their hands, and most of them came from the countryside.The professor went on to say: "Please raise your hands if your parents deliver it to the school reception point in person." Nearly a hundred hands in the big classroom raised their hands in unison.

Seeing this situation, the professor told them such a story:
A Chinese student was admitted to a famous university in the United States with excellent grades. However, due to the unfamiliarity of life, eager homesickness, and many unaccustomed eating habits, he fell ill soon after entering the school.What's more serious is that due to insufficient living expenses, her life is very embarrassing, and she is on the verge of dropping out of school.

Most of the international students studying abroad will choose part-time jobs to solve their own life problems. Working part-time for restaurants can earn a few dollars an hour, but she is too tired to do it.After a few months, the expenses she brought in were running out, so she was going to drop out and go home when the school was on vacation.

After returning to her hometown, her father who was nearly sixty years old greeted her at the airport.She stepped down the escalator, saw her long-lost father, and ran to him happily.The father's face was full of smiles, and he opened his arms to hug his daughter whom he hadn't seen for a long time.But at the moment when the daughter hugged the father's neck, the father suddenly took a step back, and the child missed the space, staggered and fell to the ground.She was greatly puzzled by her father's behavior.

The father pulled up the child who had fallen to the ground and started to sob.Say to her affectionately: "Child, no one in this world can be your backer, be your fulcrum. If you want to remain invincible in the fierce competition, you must not lose that self-reliance and self-confidence at any time." , the fulcrum of life for self-improvement. Everything depends on yourself! You are in the United States, you have your own place, and no one can help you for the rest of your life!"

(End of this chapter)