Men love such a woman: 12 lessons a happy woman must take

Chapter 31 I am alone in the world, a woman should live with her demeanor (2)
After speaking, the father stuffed the child with a return ticket.The student boarded the flight back to school without stepping into the house. Soon after returning to school, she won the highest scholarship in the college, and several papers were published in journals with international influence.

Yes, no one in this world can be your lifelong backer, only you are your own master.Therefore, no matter how big or small your territory is, as long as you can be your own master, you can direct a drama about yourself.

Being your own master relies on a capital called self-confidence.With this capital, the energy, wisdom and courage hidden in your consciousness will be mobilized, and you will feel vigorous and energetic instead of listless and gloomy; with this capital, when dealing with When working, you are free and flexible, instead of indecisive and cringing like those with low self-esteem.Such people often have warm smiles, convey a calm atmosphere, and have no intention of resisting the outside world. They are open-minded, ready to meet all people and all challenges, without any gesture of rejection, so once others feel this If there is such an atmosphere, you will be happy to be close to it.

The great writer Tolstoy was also troubled by his small eyes, but later, he abandoned his own cognition and found a fertile soil to nourish his soul in literature.And his small eyes did not prevent others from liking him in the slightest.

So, young women, don't let other people's eyes dominate your life, but be your own master from your heart, and strive to discover and create the beauty in your life.

An Jing is an ordinary female graduate of China Agricultural University, and her family has no background, but she is a senior executive of a foreign company.If you just look at her educational background, it's hard to imagine how she got into such a position.

In fact, the reason for being able to become a senior executive of a foreign company is very simple, that is, she chose to be her own master in her own territory.She has a dream and believes that she has the ability to realize it, and she has never given up.

Because the graduate school is not a famous brand, her first job is not ideal.In order to change herself, she spent more than half a month's salary learning foreign languages, and began a long journey of recharging herself.She has attended many foreign language training courses, and also attended some well-known language training courses of Beijing Foreign Studies University. For this reason, she has invested a large amount of money in herself.but.These investments have also been rewarded accordingly, and her English has improved by leaps and bounds.

As her ability has improved, she has become more confident and has more confidence in her future.Therefore, An Jing decided to move towards a higher goal.With her excellent foreign language skills, she successfully entered a foreign company.From then on, she had a platform for her own development, and was soon promoted to the supervisor of the office.

Quiet success is necessarily related to her confident character, but more importantly, she chooses to make herself the master of her destiny.In addition, Quiet's success also lies in her ability to discover her shortcomings and shortcomings in time, and to make appropriate decisions to make up for it.

However, in reality, we will also see some young girls. Although they are dancing fiercely on their own territory, they can't hear other people's voices at all, and blindly inflate themselves.Although this kind of people are confident, but first, they think too much of themselves, they always think that they are very great, and others are defeated.This kind of woman always proceeds from her own interests, never considers others, and has no enthusiasm for others. It seems that everyone should serve her, but in the end, everyone treats her with respect.Second, look down on others and always think that you are much better than others.They are often stubborn, self-centered, and always impose their own views on others. When they know that others are right, they are unwilling to change their attitudes or accept other people's views. At the same time, they always like to elevate themselves and belittle others. Nothing.

In Aesop's fables, there is such a story:
Hermos wanted to know his place in the world, so he turned into a mortal and went to a carving shop.When he saw the statue of the main god Zeus, he pointed to the sculptor and asked, "How much is this statue?"

"A silver dollar," replied the engraver.

He smiled again and asked, "How much is the statue of Hera (the wife of Zeus)?"

The sculptor replied: "It is more expensive than the statue of Zeus."

Then Hermes saw his own statue and thought of him as a messenger of Zeus.He is also the patron saint of merchants, and the world must have admired him, so he confidently asked the sculptor how much his statue cost.

The sculptor replied, "If you bought the two statues just now, this one will be given to you for free."

There is something to be proud of in being the master of your turf, but it is egotism to believe in yourself absolutely.Every woman should choose to be the master of her own destiny, but she must not let herself slip into the abyss of conceit.

Walk and sing, embark on the road to dream

In people's eyes, the characters of indecision, indecision, and shrinking when encountering difficulties seem to appear more frequently in women, especially women in the workplace.In fact, this is not difficult to understand, because in the workplace.Relative to men.Women are more prone to setbacks, and in the face of these setbacks, they may need to spend more time and energy to get out of this state.What's more, when some women encounter problems or pressures that they cannot solve, they will have the idea of ​​​​escape.This mentality often causes women to give up their existing jobs and pursue other careers.

Those phenomena mentioned above will never appear on smart "bad" women.Because we already know that the "badness" of "bad" women is just that they have more reality and less fantasy than other women; they have less weakness and more strength.Therefore, when a "bad" woman chooses a career, she will never compromise.Once you choose a career that suits you and enter the workplace, you will unswervingly walk along this path.

If you really want to have a happy life, then you should act like a "bad" woman, and turn yourself into a person who is moving towards the established goal, no matter what obstacles you encounter, you will never lose your heart. A changed dreamer.

Because for women, there are too many temptations in the workplace, but you can't greedily extend your hand into every profession you like.Because in that case, in the end, you can only fetch water from a bamboo basket and get nothing.You can only choose one career that you like the most, and the one that suits you best.

When you have decided on your career intention, you have to go on this road and believe that you will achieve impressive achievements one day.

Xiaoqing, who majored in tourism management, joined a company as an assistant after graduating from university. The ordinary and boring life has always made Xiaoqing distressed.But due to professional limitations.Even if you change jobs, it is difficult to find a job that boasts of your satisfaction.

Xiaoqing has a few friends who work in IT. During the contact with them, Xiaoqing found that although they work very hard, every day is very fulfilling, and IT is still a high-paying job.Seeing the prosperous careers of her friends, Xiaoqing felt a little itchy in her heart.

So, after careful analysis, she believes that she is fully capable of challenging the IT industry.So, she chose a computer school and learned to program.

Many friends around her thought she was crazy, and advised her one after another: IT industry is a man's world, and you are still a monk halfway through, so you are incomparable with those who have a professional background.but.She responded with a very individual character: "Men are human beings, and women are also human beings. Why can they succeed while I can't?"

Although that's easy to say.But it is self-evident how hard it is to learn it.In order to be able to learn programming well, Xiaoqing chose a very well-known computer school. At the same time, she quit her full-time job as an assistant and began to find some part-time jobs that did not affect her studies to maintain her own livelihood.

Xiaoqing finally gritted her teeth and survived the difficult study life, but Xiaoqing, who has left school, will face her second career choice.Although she has good skills, she does not have a relevant professional education certificate, which has brought her a lot of trouble.But Xiaoqing knew that she couldn't back down at this time.You can't settle for the second best, because computer technology depreciates very quickly. If you can't apply what you have learned in the past two years to your work in time, then these knowledge will soon become "garbage", and your hard work and hard work will also be lost. In vain.

Xiaoqing, who was in depression, received a call for an interview one day.This phone call was like Xiaoqing's life-saving straw, which made her a little ecstatic, but a word from the other party put her in the "cold palace" again.

"You are Xia Wei? I thought it was a boy from the name? Well, since it's a girl, we don't plan to recruit any more."

Xiaoqing was very angry when she heard this, but she knew that if she missed this opportunity, she didn't know when she would meet her again. What I want is a capable person, not just a man in the physical sense. I am confident that I can do this job well. You shouldn’t even give me a chance to show it off because I’m a girl. I hope you can see it. Take a look at the case I made, and then judge whether I can do it or not."

The other party was probably moved by her sincere and firm tone, and asked her to bring her case to the interview a week later.Two weeks later, Xiaoqing successfully got the job.

A character that is not discouraged can often prompt a person to get the job he wants smoothly and perform well at work.And when this kind of personality is present in a woman, it doesn't just get her off to a good start in her career.more able to win the respect of others.

Therefore, when young women are choosing a career, don't be intimidated by temporary difficulties, because there are ways to overcome even the greatest difficulties.No matter in good times or in bad times, always hold on to the goal you choose, and go on unswervingly, and you will be able to see the moon through the dark clouds.

Someone said: "Opportunity is a cunning little mouse. It will not appear easily until the last moment." Therefore, if we want to catch this cunning little thing, we must concentrate our attention.We can't see a beautiful butterfly in the garden for a while, and we can't help chasing after it, and when we see a small fish swimming in the water, we can't help but stick out our claws to stir the calm water.In this way, in the end, we can only "get water from a bamboo basket in vain".Therefore, women must overcome their own character shortcomings. As long as you persevere, you may find that the opportunity is by your side when you turn around. Usher in a bright tomorrow.

On the contrary, if you blindly pick and choose in various industries, and finally waste your youth, you will eventually achieve nothing.

Xiao Min graduated from the law department of a famous university. She has good grades in school, and she also hopes that one day she can stand in court and argue with her tongue.But becoming a lawyer is not easy. The first hurdle is to take the bar exam, and the pass rate of the bar exam is 7% every year, which always makes people want to say "it's not easy to love it".

So Xiao Min found a good law firm as an assistant, and she decided to learn by doing here, waiting for the exam.However, the result of the first exam was not satisfactory, and Xiao Min did not become a lucky one.For this reason, she was very annoyed. She was always unable to cheer up when she was working, and there were more and more mistakes in her work.

Seeing Xiao Min's work attitude, her boss reminded her that if she continues like this.Her future at the law firm would suffer.Xiao Min became more depressed, so she wanted to change her working environment.

Just at this time, the human resources department of a company where the classmate works is short of people.And the salary is also very attractive.So she jumped to the company where her classmates worked. The more relaxed environment here made her gradually forget the pain of failure.

When the bar exam season comes again, Xiao Min sees her former classmates preparing for the competition again, and she feels itchy, but the shadow of failure lingers in her heart.She was afraid that after failing again, it would be difficult to keep even this stable job now.

Two or three years later, those students who once held the "lawyer dream".I have already broken ground on my own battlefield with my lawyer's certificate in hand, and some students have already become famous.And Xiaomin was still standing still in the human resources department of the original company, repeating simple and boring work all day long.

Seeing her classmates own cars, houses and their own careers, Xiao Min couldn't help feeling sad: What would it have been like if you had insisted on your goals back then?

In the workplace, if you choose to treat work with the right attitude, it will also reward you with a big gift.But many women do not necessarily understand this truth.It was too late when they discovered this truth after hitting the wall again and again and making wrong choices again and again.A woman's most precious time is wasted in useless work.

Therefore, a clear and firm goal is the basic premise for a woman to win success and make a difference, because the significance of firm ideals lies not only in being persevering in the face of various setbacks and difficulties and seizing opportunities for success, but more importantly, even if you Standing on a cliff, you can still develop your great potential and save yourself from a desperate situation.What women in modern society need is the spirit and courage to persevere in pursuing their dreams.

I am the female version of Grandet

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