Men love such a woman: 12 lessons a happy woman must take

Chapter 4 The secular reality, women are only "vulgar" to look real and cute (3)
Although such a woman is very well-behaved and will make people feel like a small bird, but after a long time, no one may be able to bear it.It is true that the tenderness of a small bird is the gentleness of a woman's character, but if this gentleness becomes a habitual dependence, it is an irresponsible behavior.Under normal circumstances, there are only two possibilities for the ending of a woman like this: one is that her significant other has a solid wealth foundation and can provide her with sufficient financial security, and this "he" has deep feelings for her, so Her life is impeccable; another situation is that her life is a mess, and she has to ask someone else's opinion for every decision, whether it is her husband or her friends.In short, she couldn't survive alone.

These are the two extremes of women who like to depend, but there are very few women who are lucky enough to be the former. If you are also a member of the female compatriots, you should learn from those "bad" women. Also have a career.For a woman who wants to live in the way she likes, only by giving up the idea of ​​relying on men, whether in love or career, can she achieve something.

The erudite and talented Roufeng entered a prestigious university with her unique self-confidence.When the girls around her got boyfriends one after another, she still lived in her own world to the fullest, and she was happy to be alone.

However, Cupid's arrow of love did not forget this ordinary girl.When she was a sophomore, she accidentally helped Zhong Yi, a newcomer to the school, but Zhong Yi quickly fell in love with this knowledgeable senior sister.And this undoubtedly added a bit of ridicule to the girls in the same dormitory.

They said that Roufeng really found a treasure. In this life, she found a long-term meal ticket, so she no longer has to work hard for the rest of her life.Yes, Zhong Yi's conditions are very good, not only his appearance is handsome and unrestrained.Even his academic performance is excellent, and what's more, his mother is a professor at this university, while his father owns his own company. Such a boy is undoubtedly the prince charming in the girl's mind.

Compared with him, Roufeng's family can only be described as ordinary. Her mother is a middle school teacher in a small town in her hometown, and her father is just an ordinary cadre. The family with meager income can just support her studies. .Such a story of Cinderella and a prince gave many people room to imagine, but what surprised all the girls was that Roufeng, who promised to associate with Zhong Yi, proposed "three chapters of agreement" at this time.She made an agreement with Zhong Yi:
First, no matter eating and playing on or off campus, two people must be in AA system.

Second, Zhong Yi can't give her a particularly expensive gift, because she believes that people's feelings are not measured by money.

Thirdly, she will cherish the time spent with Zhong Yi very much, but she hopes that Zhong Yi will not interfere with her part-time job.

For Zhong Yi, who usually never asks girls to pay for meals, he was extremely dissatisfied with the "three chapters of the agreement" at first, and even didn't understand it.But when he saw the determination in Roufeng's eyes, he still agreed.

In the summer vacation of junior year, the intense and busy process of preparing for the postgraduate exam made people feel a little tired.Roufeng decided to take it easy, and happened to have a little savings on hand, so she decided to ask Zhong Yi to go to Xishuangbanna, which she had longed for for a long time.Zhong Yi originally wanted to suggest going by plane, but when he thought of the "three chapters of the contract", he dismissed the idea.

Traveling by himself with the independent Roufeng, Zhong Yi experienced unprecedented fun.She usually advocates the gentle style of doing things by herself, although she lacks a bit of girl's tenderness.But it is a little more free and easy and tenacious.During the journey, Zhong Yi saw that she could not only arrange relevant matters in advance, but also seek novel things with herself.

At the beginning of the semester, Roufeng suddenly got a piece of good news. The department decided to reserve the recommended postgraduate spot for her with excellent grades.But the good times didn't last long, because a classmate used the relationship at home.That spot was eventually snatched by him.While many people feel sorry for her, they also hope that she can go to Zhong Yi's mother, but she politely refuses.

Zhong Yi, who got the news, went to beg his mother, hoping that she could give Roufeng justice, but she also stopped him.Zhong Yi said to her angrily: "This is not the time to be brave. What if you fail the exam?" She said lightly: "Xiaoyi, I don't want to rely on others. You have to trust me. It's fine. In case, then I will take the exam with you."

Zhong Yi stared at Roufeng's smile in a daze, he finally understood Roufeng's unique charm.Roufeng seeks equality in love in her own way, and the true equality between the two parties comes from the independence of both parties.

A man without a woman is an incomplete world, and a woman without a man is an incomplete sky.So a man cannot do without a woman, and a woman cannot do without a man.But if you want to have real happiness and joy, and become a woman that men really appreciate and love, you must be like Queen Cleopatra of Egypt, grasping love with one hand and career with the other, and you must not regard love as something that can be sacrificed. career excuse.

Because your independence will make you glow with another kind of style.

You're not cute, it's just that you haven't realized the essence of "bad"
The "badness" of "bad" women is actually relative to the good women in our inherent thinking consciousness.They are just a little more real, a little more realistic than what people think of as good women.It seems a little bit "selfish".

If these "bad" women are really bad, I am afraid there will be no such sentence as we have heard: bad women are lovable.This sentence conveys people's heartfelt appreciation and love for "bad" women.

We all know that happiness and joy are what everyone pursues, and everyone wants to have such a life. Don't those good women who are praised by people want to spend every day freely and happily like "bad" women?Why complain when you envy those "bad" women?Why not make yourself a "bad" woman to be envied?

No matter how you look at it, as a woman, if you want to truly live a happy and joyful life, you must be as bad as those "bad" women.In fact, some women are not unlovable, but they have not realized the essence of "badness", and they don't know that this kind of "badness" is precisely the release of the truest self.Because it is impossible for a woman who is constantly suppressing her true thoughts and pursuits to truly have happiness and happiness.The true meaning of happiness and joy is not sacrificing the self to achieve others, but to do what you like to do and realize your own value.Happiness and joy are not given by others, but are actively strived for and pursued by oneself.Although happiness and happiness are a kind of feeling, it is the feeling of life, but this kind of feeling is based on the most basic material and money foundation, and each of us is living in reality, not in ideals. Or the world of nothingness.

perhaps.The good women who are praised by people know this, and they have a strong desire to face life like those "bad" women deep in their hearts. Ever since, they surrendered to people's words and became a good woman who was praised by others but suffered a lot.

As women, have you ever thought about whether you live for the words and comments of others, or for your own happiness and happiness?Why can't you live authentically, release your nature, and bravely pursue happiness and joy?

A father and son were hurrying along with a strong little donkey.

Seeing this scene, many people couldn't help commenting: "Hey! Look, this father and son are really weird! They don't ride donkeys. I really don't understand what they buy donkeys for?"

Probably the father and son heard the pedestrian's discussion!The father put his son on the donkey and continued on his way.

After walking for a while, I heard pedestrians talking again.

"You see, this young man is too disrespectful to his father. He rides a donkey while letting his father walk on the ground. Doesn't he know how to let his father ride a donkey?"

After hearing these words, the son got off the donkey and let his father ride on the donkey.After that, continue on your way.

Before he had gone far, a passer-by spoke again: "Look, this father doesn't care about his Haizi at all. He lets Xianzi walk and rides a donkey by himself."

The father had to get off the donkey, and neither of them rode on the donkey, but led the donkey forward.

In reality, many women, just like the father and son in the story, gradually lose themselves in other people's words or in order to conform to other people's words. How can they really have joy and happiness?

Women who long for happiness and joy, be more real like "bad" women, and be more realistic!Don't lose your self-nature because of other people's words, and become a poor and good woman who is praised by others.What you should remember is that the badness of "bad" women is not really bad, but the release of female nature, which is the art and wisdom of survival.As long as you can understand this, ask yourself what you want, and adopt proper methods and means, you can get it.

Do you understand now that a "bad" woman is not bad, she just knows what she wants and how to get it.They are the real angels who live a real and happy life, and they are also loved ones.That being the case, why don't you throw away those unnecessary worries, release your true self, and make yourself a "bad" woman who is loved by others and has a good life?So, is also a well-loved person.That being the case, why don't you throw away those unnecessary worries, release your true self, and make yourself a "bad" woman who is loved by others and has a good life?

(End of this chapter)