Men love such a woman: 12 lessons a happy woman must take

Chapter 5 Show off your ego, women are gentle but not without ego (1)
It is true that a woman marrying a good husband can free herself from the pressure of society, save herself from struggling for more than ten years, and make herself a regular customer of brand fashion stores... It seems that women can only live a happy life by relying on men.In fact, many women raised their arms and shouted: Who said that scholars can't direct their own lives!As long as you choose to be the helm of your own destiny.Show off yourself, then you can also stand at the pinnacle of success like a man and enjoy the eyes of others looking up to you.

Even Yiren's little bird.to fly alone

A woman's destiny can be rich and colorful, or it can be as plain as water.But in the end, it depends on the woman herself.It's a pity that in real life, many women don't understand this. They always regard themselves as weak, and think that women should be gentle and submissive, like a bird to be loved by men, and thus hand over their fate to men , thinking that a man's sense of responsibility can bring happiness to himself.

In reality, when a woman needs to be beautiful, she hopes that a man will carefully choose fashionable and trendy clothes for herself; when she needs romance, she hopes that a man will arrange a romantic candlelight dinner for herself; Take care of yourself carefully; when you feel cold, I hope that a man will quietly light a fire and hug yourself to keep warm... Sometimes, a man can arrange for you what you want and give you meticulous care, but when a man must What do you do when I leave you?From now on, don't go shopping, don't go into restaurants, don't see a doctor, and endure the cold?
You know, a woman who entrusts her destiny to a man is like a kite in the sky. Although she can fly comfortably into the clouds and enjoy the breeze happily, as long as the man lets go of the string in his hand, you will be drifting away. lose yourself.

Lin Ziqiong is a gentle and demure girl. As the only child in the family, she has been studying and living under the arrangement of her parents since she was a child, and she has long been used to this kind of dependence that makes her feel safe.

After graduating from university, she did not go out to find a job by herself, but entered a large state-owned enterprise with the help of her parents.Compared with those aunt-level colleagues in the office who are over half a century old, the arrival of Lin Ziqiong immediately made the once lifeless office lively and lively, and the colleagues also took good care of Lin Ziqiong.

For newcomers who have just started working, the help of colleagues can help them integrate into work faster.But if you help in every detail, you should be vigilant, but Lin Ziqiong didn't realize this.Gradually, Lin Ziqiong unknowingly developed a strong dependence on the colleagues in the office, and got used to living in the office where there are people taking care and help everywhere.Whenever she encounters a problem at work, the first thing she thinks of is not how to solve it by herself, but takes it for granted to look around to see who can solve it for her.

Now, Lin Ziqiong has been married for almost 4 years, but she still relies on her husband like a child.Usually, Lin Ziqiong hardly has any friends, and she sticks with her husband when she gets home from work. The narrow social circle makes her more and more dependent on her husband. Let the husband make up his mind.

Therefore, whenever her husband goes on a business trip for more than a week, Lin Ziqiong will feel restless.She always felt very insecure sleeping alone, sullen and even lost her temper all day long.Not only that, but she can't lift her spirits when it comes to work.Lin Ziqiong's husband called her from another place, and she cried on the phone, urging her husband to come back quickly.

Lin Ziqiong said that she is really afraid of the feeling that her husband is not around. She will feel empty in her heart, as if something is missing, and she will also be very irritable. She feels that the days are too long and she can't always make herself happy.

Although this kind of woman can also make people feel like a small bird, but after a long time, no one may be able to bear it.Little Niao Yiren is the gentleness of a woman's character, but if this kind of gentleness becomes habitual dependence, it will be dangerous.Once a man leaves you, your life will become dark, with no direction, no goal, and you are like a kite with a broken string.

Maybe you think women should be like this, and feel that if a woman works hard like a man and is self-improving like a man, she will lose her femininity. Not only can she not be called a docile and good woman, but she will appear a little restless and a little "bad".However, what I want to tell you here is that, as an independent woman, although she is not as cute as Xiaoniaoyiren, she has lost her charming and loving tears, but she has a fast-paced behavior style and the courage to act daringly. , will also be eye-catching.An independent woman like this will not hand over her destiny to a man, and will not lose herself.When there is a man around, they can enjoy the romance of two people; when the man is not around, they can enjoy the romance of one person.

"Bad" women are such independent women. There is never the word "dependence" in their dictionary. In their book of fate, there has never been a law that women are destined to submit to men forever, let alone surrender their own destiny. .It is this unique charm that adds a lot of brilliance to women and makes them more popular with men.

Of course, such "bad" women will not refuse a man's romance and care, and they will enjoy the feeling of being taken care of.When a man is busy, they have more busy things; when the man is not around, they can go to the beach to bask in the sun alone; if they want to go shopping, but he is sticking to themselves, they immediately find something for him to get out of it...

In other words, as a woman, you should know that men may tolerate you, care for you, and hold you in their palms. This is their right, but not their obligation.When a man gives up loving you for some reason, please don't lose your focus, get lost, and don't let yourself fall to the bottom.Be an independent woman like a "bad" woman!

I model my show, be the director of my own life

In western legends, the first human woman, Eve, was just a rib of Adam, and in Chinese history, women were just appendages to men.Therefore, for many years, people have always agreed that "it is better to marry well than to study well" and "to marry well is better to do well".

It is true that a woman marrying a good husband can free herself from the pressure of society, save herself from struggling for more than ten years, allow herself to go to high-end hotels from time to time, and make herself a frequent visitor to branded fashion stores... Women seem to only rely on Only a man can have a happy life.In fact, the "bad" women raised their arms and shouted: Who said women can't direct their own lives!
Perhaps the "bad" women do not have enough ability and experience to gain a foothold in society and compete with men, but their young and arrogant characters make them bravely shout the slogan "I am not convinced".

Yes, in this society where men and women are equal, why does the society only recognize that only men can dominate their lives?As long as you are independent and dare to do things, who says women can't direct their own lives?As long as you choose to be the helm of your own destiny, then you can also stand at the pinnacle of success like a man and enjoy the eyes of others looking up to you.Although such women seem a little restless, their courage can bring a refreshing feeling to men, and they can even gain men's appreciation and affection.

There was a young woman working in a Mexican restaurant.She works from midnight to 6:00 in the morning every day, but her income is only a few dollars.She didn't feel aggrieved or even complained a little bit about it, but chose to live frugally, save every penny, and save every dime to realize her dream-open a Mexican snack bar by herself, specializing in San Diego meat pie.

When she made this choice, she ran to the bank to apply for a loan from the manager.She said: "I want to buy a house and run a tapas business. If you will lend me a few thousand dollars, then my wish will come true."

A strange foreign scholar, without any property mortgage, and without a guarantor, even she herself did not know whether she could succeed, but she dared to borrow money from others.You might think her behavior borders on crazy.

But the manager was overwhelmed by her courage and decided to take the risk of funding, and she was lucky enough to get the loan.

With this loan.At the age of 25, she ran her own San Diego meatloaf shop. After 15 years of hard work, the snack bar eventually expanded into the largest wholesale Mexican food store in the United States.

This woman is Ramona Banuelos, who once served as the Secretary of the Treasury of the United States.

For every woman, life is like a play, and on this stage, everyone should be the center, scriptwriter, director and protagonist of this play.The success or failure of this play is completely determined by oneself, and the people around are at best supporting roles. The real power of decision and choice should be in the hands of women themselves.Such restless women, although not as gentle and submissive as good women have been for a long time, but they face the embarrassment of life and have the courage to liberate themselves from this state.But it can impress others even more.Ramona Banuelos mentioned above is such a woman.

For Ramona Banuelos, the main reason for success is not the help of that manager.It is undeniable that he has indeed played a certain role in her success, but the reason why he is willing to help her is because he has seen the self-reliance and self-improvement personality charm exuded from Ramona Banuelos. prompted him to make the right decision.

From the above narrative, we can see that as a woman, she is fully capable of directing her own life, as long as she can make the right choice and work hard for it.

But not making such a choice at any time can get an answer that satisfies you.The famous Chinese physicist Yang Zhenning once talked about the problem of scientists’ courage: “When you get old, you will become more and more timid...because once you have a new idea, you will immediately think of a bunch of never-ending ideas. When you are young, you can find new ideas everywhere and face challenges boldly, but when you are old, you are tired of running and arguing..."

The same applies to women today.Just imagine, after you have experienced most of the successes and failures in your life, do you still have the courage to make major choices in life?Even if you made that choice, do you still have the time and energy to make it happen?Perhaps at that time, you already had more than enough energy.

Therefore, a woman who wants to direct her own life should choose a direction when she is young and steer the rudder of her destiny.However, some women often give up the right to choose a career and happiness because of their appearance, and become a female "bachelor" who stays alone in a vacant house.But those women who understand the true meaning of life don't let their appearance constrain their pursuit of career and happiness.

Opinions don't always come out
In the eyes of many women, when a man is talking about something or making a decision, it's best to nod and say yes, and don't have any different opinions, so as to become the "good girl" that men like.Not only that, but they also feel that when encountering such a situation, if they have their own opinions, speak out, and argue with others, they will lose a little bit of tenderness and obedience that women should have, and feel a little restless!
However, what I want to say here is that a woman's gentle obedience is not obedience without any opinions or opinions.It is difficult for a woman without her own opinion to truly be favored by a man.Think about it, they don't even know what they are going to do, how to love and protect themselves, how can they be loved by men?Those women who make their own minds.Much of the time, the words are aggressive.Those lovable "bad" women are certainly not like this. Although they have their own opinions and opinions, they don't always want to express their opinions.They don't speak out, it doesn't mean they don't have opinions or don't want to express their opinions, mostly because those are trivial things that can be accommodated.In the face of major events and clear positions, the smart bad woman never hides her opinions in her heart, but speaks out bravely.

Mary and her boyfriend met when they were in college. Many couples "parted ways" when they graduated from college. Although heartbroken, they had to. Mary is happy. She walked out of school with her boyfriend and went to a big city to work hard. Now both of them have a satisfactory job.

It’s the weekend again, and Mary and her boyfriend have time, so they decide to spend it well: go to have a big meal first, then watch a movie, and then go for a walk, what a wonderful weekend!

"What would you like to eat?" Mary asked her boyfriend.

"I don't care, today you decide!" The boyfriend didn't seem to be thinking about what to eat.

"Let's eat hot pot!" Mary saw a promotional information of a hot pot restaurant.

"Eating hot pot again! I just ate it with my colleagues yesterday!" The boyfriend looked embarrassed.

"Then go eat KFC!" Seeing her boyfriend's reluctance, Mary changed her mind.

"It's still so far to eat KFC! If you don't want to go, just find one nearby!"

"Then tell me, what to eat?" Mary got a little impatient.

"Whatever, you decide!" The boyfriend had an indifferent attitude.

"Then eat hot pot, there's a restaurant just around the corner!" Mary said firmly.

"Do you want to eat!" asked the boyfriend again.

"I'm free, you decide what to eat!" Mary didn't care.

Because of the question of what to eat, Mary and her boyfriend argued for nearly half an hour, and finally her boyfriend decided to eat Hunan cuisine.

In the eyes of others, maybe Mary is a girl without her own opinion.On the issue of what to eat, although she made many suggestions, they were only suggestions, and the final decision was still in the hands of her boyfriend.This can only mean that Mary has no opinion on what to eat and can eat whatever she wants, but it does not mean that she has no opinion on what to do.

That's what a smart "bad" woman is, and she doesn't insist on her own opinion on trivial matters.For example, when it comes to what to eat, they will not stick to their original ideas.Because it's not a big deal.It doesn't matter what you eat or don't eat.If you don’t eat today, you can eat tomorrow, and if you don’t have time tomorrow, you can eat the day after tomorrow.Such a matter, whether to raise an opinion or not will not cause any serious impact.But she chose her current boyfriend among many suitors. Isn't this her own opinion?Against the objections of her family and her boyfriend, Mary resolutely chose her current job, and she did it brilliantly. Isn't that her opinion?At work, as the head of the department, Mary has successfully completed a number of plans. Isn't this her opinion?
It can be seen that "bad" women have no opinions, but it does not mean that they have no opinions. They are bad because they know "what song to sing on which mountain", understand what should be assertive, and there is no need to be stubborn about what.

A bit "bad" woman enriches her mind all the time and uses her brain to think about everything, so that she can make the right decision and be a woman with her own opinion.

At work, "bad" women will seriously think about their interests, what kind of work they are suitable for, how to develop their potential at work, and what kind of work is the most promising.

Emotionally, a "bad" woman will calmly analyze what kind of man is suitable for her, what kind of support she needs, and how she should position herself in the relationship between two people.

In terms of family relationship, a "bad" woman will always know that those nagging words that sound harsh are always good advice. Although she occasionally shows impatience, she will never ignore it.

In terms of making friends, "bad" women can distinguish what kind of friends are wine and meat friends, and what kind of friends are close friends who can make friends with each other.

In short, when dealing with anything, "bad" women have their own perspectives and methods, and she also has her own decisions.

man is just your crutch

Whether physically or psychologically, it is an indisputable fact that men are strong and women are weak.It is because of this that women are born with a dependent psychology.Whether in couples, friends, colleagues or classmates, women always have a desire to be taken care of and treated preferentially. When studying, they hope that boys will show courtesy, and when they do things, they hope to have male colleagues to help them.

Once many women fall in love or become wives, they think that they can never do without the strong backbone like a mountain, and regard men as the lighthouse and backer in their lives.No matter how big or small, whether she is going out to find the value of life, or is as small as facing a cockroach, she will hesitate or turn pale, and need to ask a man for instructions.

But a bit "bad" woman tells us not to use a man as his backer, but to use him as his crutch.The significance of owning a cane is to make one's own way better and more stable. A man is only a part of the word "person", and the other part needs to be completed by a woman herself.Smart "bad" women naturally understand this truth, but some women who have done stupid things and still think they are "virtuous" are not so conscious.Their fault is that they don't understand that "valuing others is tantamount to ignoring themselves"!Just imagine, how can such a woman get the happiness and joy she wants, and have the meticulous care and love that a man gives them?

Li Jing was an out-and-out workaholic at the beginning. Her dedication, intelligence, and savvy gave her a sense of accomplishment all the time.However, the class reunion on the 5th anniversary of graduation made her feel the long-lost family affection, friendship and honesty. After reviewing the filth and hypocrisy in the mall, Li Jing's career obsession collapsed across the board, and she resolutely gave up her prosperous career. I want to be a "virtuous" woman at home.

(End of this chapter)