Men love such a woman: 12 lessons a happy woman must take

Chapter 6 Show off your ego, women are gentle but not without ego (2)
Some people say that women often regard youth as important as life before marriage, but after marriage.Especially after having a child, it means that there is no need to dress up, and sometimes I don't even comb my hair or wash my face.This sentence could not be more suitable for Li Jing.Since the day Li Jing decided to be a housewife, she has lost herself, her shyness as a girl, she is no longer reserved and a bit vulgar, she has lost her previous spirituality, and she appears a bit dull.

With children, she no longer buys clothes and invests desperately in children, as if she is waiting for aging and retirement.She used to wear skirts for four seasons, but now she wears one-color trousers; the classic fashion she once loved.Now I have changed into casual clothes; my favorite high-heeled shoes have also become flat-heeled shoes; I used to hate the smell of oily smoke and never went out of the kitchen, but now I think about what to buy for three meals a day when I open my eyes; And freedom is regarded as a classic, and now I occasionally drive to follow; I used to call from time to time and was invited by friends or invited friends to meet, but now it seems to have been forgotten or ignored by friends...

Now, Li Jing is far away from the smoke-free war in the workplace, but she lacks a sense of accomplishment, a little lost, a little uneasy, and even a sense of crisis.

With the development of the economy and the change of people's concept of employment, many professional women have become "full-time wives" at home.They think that when they get married, they will have a backbone they can rely on, and they don't have to think about anything, and they can be "good wives and mothers" with peace of mind.

The life of a "full-time wife" is what many women yearn for, and it is also what many women are willing to accept.Because you don't have to run around outside early in the morning, don't have to look at other people's faces, and don't have to say insincere words, you can live a life of "giving money to you".But if you accept this kind of life, you will easily lose yourself.

therefore. "Bad" women remind you: If it is not a last resort, don't give up your career easily, because career is the cornerstone of your self-reliance and the capital of your self-confidence.It is one of the most important links between you and society.

But that's not to say that "bad" women aren't good wives and mothers.If you ask a "bad" woman: As a woman, what do you most want to be?She would answer without hesitation: "A good wife and mother".But she knows that being a good wife and mother does not mean ignoring herself or losing herself.Smart "bad" women know that husbands and children are not everything in life, so it's okay to talk about their men and children, but taking them as topics regardless of occasions and objects, regardless of time, shows their own narrowness and inclinations. shallow.

Many women - especially young and beautiful women - can't help but fall into this trap - hoping to meet a man who loves them very, very much, so that they can live easily and rely on themselves.

But if you rely too much on men, it will cause many unmanageable scenes and make you immature.Sonia Friedmond once said: "The best thing a woman can give a man is a mature self. Being owned by a man, but also being able to own a man." It seems that if you want to be a mature woman or want to win in love If so, don't let dependence become a stumbling block to love.

Women are not children, so we must consciously realize that we can no longer covet to enjoy the patents of children.If you are reluctant to give up the happy feeling of being loved and blindly play the role of a child, the result will be that you will not grow up when you are old.And such an old child is essentially annoying, because she is no longer weak, but she still wants to get something for nothing.Therefore, if others are still cautiously coaxing her and loving her.It must be something else, and it's nothing more than holding it in your hand for fun!
No matter what kind of woman, never abandon yourself.A person who abandons himself is abandoning his life, and living will lose its meaning.Although dressing up is a superficial phenomenon, the connotation it reflects is profound.On the basis of benefiting others, a person must live for himself.This is also the meaning of life.

leave a space of your own
"Marry him, he is all I have." Many women say so.In fact, which woman does not want to have her own space?

Shu Ting's popular lyric poem "To the Oak Tree" said: "...Never learn to climb the lily flower/Show yourself to your tall branches...I must be a kapok near you/As the image of a tree standing with you Together...we share the cold wave, wind and thunder, and thunderbolt / We share mist, Liulan, and hauni / It seems to be separated forever, but we are still dependent for life..."

Admittedly, women in "The Wall" should make room for themselves.In fact, a man is only a part of a woman's life.It is a companion who walks hand in hand with you on the road of life.The relationship between a man and a woman should be one of mutual dependence and mutual help, two trees standing side by side, instead of treating a man as a tree and entwining himself like a vine.

The girl and the boy are college classmates and have been in love for three years.

Since meeting the boy, the girl has almost put all her attention on the boy, and seldom contacted and got together with her classmates. She didn't want to leave the boy aside and go out to play by herself.

A year after graduation, the two thought it was time to get married.

In the coffee shop, they are discussing the "big plan" for the future.

"From now on, I will leave the family affairs to you, and you will help me take care of everything at home honestly, and I will work hard to make more money and raise you comfortably..." the boy said softly.

The girl nodded obediently while putting her favorite chocolate into her mouth.

Thus, a very simple and ordinary "deal" was made.But the girl didn't realize that the nightmare had already started from the moment she nodded.

The girl resigned, she should concentrate on being a "housewife" and take good care of her boyfriend and future husband.

In order to improve her cooking skills, the girl signed up for a cooking class. Since she couldn't bear the pungent oily fume, she rushed out again and again. After taking a few breaths of fresh air, she returned to the "classroom" with fear.Although she has never been in the kitchen since she was a child, in order to let her boyfriend and future husband eat delicious meals, she specially signed up to study. There is no way for her boyfriend to like the food at home.

After marriage, girls put all their energy on boys.

Every day when the alarm clock rings, the woman wakes up from her dream and starts preparing breakfast for her husband before washing up.When he was sent to work smoothly, he started cleaning and cleaning again, preparing dinner for the evening... Daily work is to wash and rinse, and even though it is boring, it has become a habit.When a man handed his rice bowl to a woman and said, "One more bowl", everything is so natural...

One day, the woman yelled like crazy, "What on earth do you have to do with that woman? How do you explain this nasty text message?" She burst into tears, but the man was speechless.He changed his mind, because his once beautiful wife has now become a yellow-faced woman who only knows how to cook. He hopes to have someone to communicate with himself.Just at this time, a beautiful and connotative girl appeared, as to whether he could cook, it was no longer important to him...

As a woman, it seems that she should get married and have a husband and children, and she should be in the hall and the kitchen.Driven by routine, they do things they really don't want to do, sacrificing themselves to gain the approval of men.

In real life, there are many women who regard men as the weight and center of gravity of their beautiful life. This is the tragedy of women.They may not realize that because they regard men as their everything and rely too much on men, they are slowly losing touch with society, and their contacts with society are narrowing day by day.If one day, a man changes his mind and leaves, their world will collapse, and they don't know how long it will take to sink to find themselves again.

In "Chinese Style Divorce", the angry husband Song Jianping advised his wife Lin Xiaofeng: "The most unbearable thing for a man is that his wife compares himself with others." Gui's wife, but her marriage has become the epitome of "Chinese-style divorce".Even if she hides behind a man, a woman must have an independent spiritual world. Lin Xiaofeng didn't understand this, so the more she felt unconfident, the more she doubted her husband, until the relationship between the poor and humble couple was tortured to the brink of death.

"Bad" women never regard men as their whole, and are good at leaving a free space for themselves.Whether they are in life or work, they are always self-reliant, confident, and self-reliant. In addition to men, children, and families, they also have their own careers, hobbies, and friends in their world.

"Bad" women are also good wives and mothers, but they are good at managing a mood for themselves, adjusting and pleasing themselves in the way they like, and resolving troubles with a calm and free attitude.Their life is rich and colorful, they have many interests, such as listening to music, watching movies, watching football, fitness, dancing, surfing the Internet, traveling, etc., all of which allow them to find the joy of personal life.They can also integrate their interests and work, find the balance between work and life, perceive their own existence, and realize their own value, so that they can live comfortably and calmly.

Be your own princess, don't be someone else's appendage
There are two women like this, one is a single rich woman who is worth hundreds of millions, settled in the United States, lives in a luxurious villa, has countless subordinates and employees who can boss her around, but she said to a poor friend of hers: "Look, my life Is it a failure? I'm so poor that I don't even have a man who loves me. At this point, I finally understand that success or failure is measured by a man!"

Another woman has a boyfriend who loves deeply and lives in a mansion, but her boyfriend fell in love with another woman at first sight while on a business trip in Japan, and then abandoned her.Only the woman was left to guard the empty house alone, washing her face with tears all day long.After some pain, she realized that men are unreliable.

In these two stories, whether they succeed or fail, their lives are not harmonious, because they have not really gotten rid of their dependence on men and achieved true independence.

If I love you, I will never imitate the climbing Ling Xiaohua and use your tall branches to show off myself;

(End of this chapter)