Men love such a woman: 12 lessons a happy woman must take

Chapter 7 Show off your ego, women are gentle but not without ego (3)
If I love you, I will never learn from the infatuated bird, repeating the monotonous song for the green shade;
It is not only like a source, sending cool comfort all year round;
It is not just like a dangerous peak, which increases your height and sets off your majesty;

even sunlight,

even the spring rain,

No, none of this is enough.

I must be a kapok near you,
Stand with you as the image of the tree.

Love requires spiritual independence to respect and love each other, and women need independent personality to live out their style.Women, if you want to live a wonderful life, don't be a vine but a tree, don't always think about relying on others, but be able to stand on your own.Only by being self-reliant can you steer the voyage of destiny and dominate your own life.

Some people say that women can live for love, but men don't live only for women.Yes!Women are like flowers, soft and charming because of the nourishment of love, and haggard because of the torment of love; women are like water, vivid because of the waves of love, and dry because of the exposure of love.When love comes, the ugliest woman will become a princess; when love leaves, the noblest princess will become ugly!
A woman's mood, beauty and ugliness change because of the coming and going of love, while a man's heart and love are as unpredictable as the wind, coming without a shadow and going without a trace.No one can promise that the beauty of love can last forever, and no one can guarantee that the purity of love will never change.Too much belief in today's vows will only make tomorrow's betrayal more heartbreaking, and too much reliance on today's tenderness will only make tomorrow's separation more desperate.

In this case, why can't women learn to love themselves, the noble princess?When there is love, women are delicate and charming; when love leaves, learn to let go.

In a college class, a female teacher makes the argument that women are strong.The boys sneered when they heard this, and some boys with malicious intentions even asked a question to make things difficult for the female teacher: Suppose there are three boys and one girl on an uninhabited island, and it is an island in the sea that humans have not yet discovered.Who can be the strongest in this situation?
The female teacher smiled slightly.Then he talked eloquently: "At the beginning, boys are like vicious wolves, and girls are lambs to be slaughtered, but this situation can't last long. Soon girls become tigers that dominate the world, and boys are just lambs to be slaughtered." The reason is very simple, the boys duel each other in order to fight for the only one, one is killed and the other is disabled, and the winner becomes a docile lamb." The boys collectively booed.

"Don't think I'm talking nonsense, you can do an experiment if you have the guts to fall in love with a classmate's girlfriend madly, and it will be verified!"

"Long live!" the girls chanted.

At this time, another boy stood up and asked: "But, what if there are three women and one man on the island?"

"That way, the girls are tigers all the way. They don't fight each other over the lamb, but try to devour more lamb and get more lamb soup."

This little story makes people smile knowingly, and the wit of the female teacher has won people's favor.But from this story, we also come to such a conclusion: women are not weak, they can be their own princesses independently.

Independence is not about how much property you have, or how much you have a man who loves you.A woman can only truly rely on herself when she is free from the constraints of a man.Women's independence is spiritual and temperamental, and they are absolutely not attached to anyone. "Never learn from the climbing scorpion, and never learn from the infatuated bird."

Women, if you want to live a happy life, if you always think about relying on others, you will be controlled by others, and if you always want to rely on others for protection, you will never be able to become strong. Only by being self-reliant can you develop a strong ability and unyielding Will, no matter how difficult you encounter, you can overcome it.

Life is like a play.On the stage of our own lives, we should be the center of the play, the producer, the screenwriter, the director, and the protagonist.

Therefore, women should be their own princesses, don’t just wait for the prince to save them, don’t treat yourself as an appendage to your husband or boyfriend, and lose yourself completely, but arrange your own life, because you are the master of your own life .

What's wrong with being financially independent?
Independence is a very high state, which requires a high-quality mentality and brand-new values.A woman's independence should include two aspects, one is spiritual and the other is economic.All along, we have paid more attention to the independence of their spiritual realm. "Bad" women believe that if a woman is economically dependent on a man, it will be difficult for her to achieve spiritual independence.

Just imagine, a woman shouts the slogan of independence and talks about equality with others, but turns around and asks the man for living expenses with a low eyebrow. We cannot say that this woman is truly independent, no matter how independent she is in her heart!
Ge Lili and her husband got married two years after they met. Before the marriage, they were both office workers and independent in life.After getting married, although Ge Lili envied being a "full-time wife" and disliked intrigues in the workplace, she still insisted on going to work.

One year after marriage, Ge Lili became pregnant and gave birth to a son. Because her mother-in-law and mother were in poor health and could not help her with strings, she had to give up her job and become a full-time wife at home.Without a job, the work of raising children is not easy at all. The worst thing is that my husband's attitude has changed a lot.Seeing that something was not done well at home, he said, "I really don't know what you do at home every day. The floor is so dirty and you don't know how to mop it." When Ge Lili said that raising a child is hard work, he would say, "Then you won't wait for the child to sleep during the day. You sleep again, and whoever's child is not brought up like this, you are the only one who thinks it is hard?"

Finally, the child went to kindergarten at the age of four. Ge Lili wanted to return to work, but she gave up because her son was always sick.Once her son was ill and rested at home for a few days, and just saw improvement. Ge Lili didn’t rest well for several days, so she slept a little longer in the morning, and her husband pulled his face and said, “What time is it? Breakfast, do you still have to let me make breakfast for you before you go to work?"

Although we cannot say that all women without income have no status at home, we can be sure that many women without income do have no status at home.Even if some men don't say anything, they will think that he is supporting you and the family, and it is only natural for you to serve him, even if he loses his temper.You should bear it too.To know your clothes, cosmetics.In addition, three meals a day cost him money, what qualifications do you have to argue with him?And women will also comfort themselves and say, whoever makes this family count on him, just bear it if you can.

It can be said that women who are economically dependent on men will never be independent. Only when they are economically independent, when they want to buy clothes and cosmetics, can they confidently pay for their own pockets, instead of carefully trying to win over the other party when disposing of money. Opinions, and you don't have to ask him for money when you buy him a gift.Only by spending the money earned by one's own labor can one be confident and feel at ease.

Everyone knows that Chen Yanni is a woman with a successful career. Her first book "Tell You a Real America" ​​was warmly welcomed by readers.The subsequent books about Chinese entrepreneurship in the United States and the experience of Chinese returning to China became the bestsellers of the season once they were published.Later, she founded "American Literature Weekly" and served as the president herself.

She believes that a woman should be financially independent first, and a woman with a successful career will have sufficient self-confidence to reflect an elegant temperament, and this self-confidence is more attractive than the self-confidence of youth and beauty.

A reporter once interviewed her: "I heard that there are many full-time wives in the United States. Their lives revolve around their families. They are relatively simple and less stressful. Have you ever thought about such a simple life?"

"No, never." Chen Yanni shook her head resolutely, "I can't imagine asking others for living expenses. I once stayed at home for a few months because of a job change, and that time was terrible. Except for my husband, my spirit I don’t have any support, and I have nothing to do at home all day long. Later, when I saw my husband, I was a little cautious. It’s ridiculous to think about it now. American newspapers and periodicals are very competitive. What I do is tantamount to competing with American men for jobs, but I would rather Fighting hard in society, fighting for your own sky, and don’t want to wash and cook at home all day, waiting for your husband to come home.”

Of course, we are not advocating that women must be strong women and earn enough money, but at least one thing must be, and that is work.It is best to find a job that you like. Doing so will make you feel good, your work performance will be good, and you will get paid more accordingly.

However, it is not easy to choose a job that you are really interested in. Most women are busy in a job that they don’t like or hate. Sometimes they get confused, but they have to learn to adjust After all, you can choose whether you are happy or not.

Women have jobs, which is the best way to support themselves and the only guarantee against future risks.Don't expect to marry a man and rely on him to support you for the rest of your life. Of course, this is not impossible, but we must have a sense of risk. A lot of empty time, and can also give you a reward, it really kills several birds with one stone!
In addition, more importantly, work can help women realize their own value and bring them a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction, which can make women more confident and charming, and make men appreciate you and dare not treat you as themselves Private property at will.

A smart "bad" woman will definitely not be a canary kept in a cage by a man, and will not let a man's pocket determine her quality of life.She may not have a thriving career, but she must have a job of her own, and she must be able to get a salary that can at least support herself every month. This is the first step to prevent you from becoming an accessory of a man and achieve independence.

(End of this chapter)