Men love such a woman: 12 lessons a happy woman must take

Chapter 8 Show your personality.How can a woman have a unique brilliance without personality (1)
Docile, cute, pure scholar or flamboyant, domineering, individual woman, which one do you prefer?Women may choose the former as friends, but men may prefer the latter.Because women with personality are not hypocritical, they are frank, forthright, self-willed, unruly, and difficult to conquer. In the eyes of men, they are different, and they stand out in the age of beauties.In an era when men are prone to aesthetic fatigue, such a woman is smarter than a beautiful woman.Prettier than a smart woman, men have no reason not to love her.

Be a cute "dominant girlfriend"

Who is more domineering, a man or a woman?Usually a man's domineering is easy to show, but a woman's domineering is silent.As a man, no one wants to admit that he likes domineering women.But the problem is that many women around men are a bit domineering.In fact, it doesn't matter if you are domineering, just like the classic saying, "Men are not afraid of women. In terms of body shape and strength, men don't have to be afraid of domineering women at all, but the obedience we show is just to treat them." It’s just pampering and caring.” That is to say, when a man loves a woman, he will regard her domineering as acting like a baby, and regard a woman’s orders as his own obligation.

"Ding Ling..." The alarm clock kept ringing.I smelled it when I woke up.

The husband pushed his wife, "Get up, don't you say you want to get up early!"

The wife covered her ears with the quilt, "Turn it off, don't make noise, let me sleep for a while!"

The husband was very stubborn, and pushed his wife with his butt: "Get up quickly! Otherwise, we will be late!"

The wife remained unmoved. "Don't be noisy! Are you annoying!"

Ten minutes later, the wife woke up suddenly, looked at the alarm clock, and yelled at her husband: "My God, why didn't you call me? I'm going to be late!"

The husband looked at his wife helplessly: "My voice is almost hoarse from calling you..."

The wife has already rushed out of the house.

That's right, even if you have yelled thousands of times, if you haven't woken up your wife, then you haven't yelled. When the man sees this, he starts to yell. Didn't call", being a man is really hard!

"Bad" women seem to like to be domineering like this.But what's wrong with being a bit domineering?For men, don't they still happily follow behind women's buttocks while they shout "life is hard"?This shows that they still enjoy the arrogance of women in their hearts.

Just like a classic line in the movie "Hedong Lion Roar":
From now on, you can only treat me well;
Love me, don't lie to me;

Promise me every thing, you have to do;
Be sincere in every word I say.

Don't lie to me, scold me, and care about me;

When others bully me, you must come out to help me as soon as possible;

When I am happy, you have to accompany me to be happy;
When I am unhappy, you have to make me happy;

Always feel that I am the most beautiful;
You also want to see me in your dream;

There is only me in your heart.

Such domineering is every woman's dream, but "bad" women can properly express their domineering.

Domineering is domineering, and don't express it too directly. If you present your domineering thoughts all at once, it may make men unacceptable. "Bad" women will turn domineering into countless clues, and plant them in a man's heart one by one. When a man fully understands your intentions, he will be completely accustomed to your domineering thoughts.

That is to say, domineering is a process that must be infiltrated unconsciously.And pay attention, even if the final result is an "unreasonable" request, the process of request must be "founded", such as the "bad" woman below.

The boy and the girl have been married for more than a year, and they have their own jobs on weekdays. After get off work, they are all tired like a mess of mud, so it is impossible to do all the housework on one person, so the boy and the girl decided to adopt the oldest and most Advanced way - division of labor.

So the girl in charge of the family began to "reasonably" divide the labor: "Husband, the dirty work should be done by men!"

"Yes!" the boy replied.

"So, mopping the floor, cleaning the toilet, cleaning the table, chairs, sofa...all these jobs are done by you!" The boy nodded.

The girl continued to divide the work: "You are better at science and engineering than I am. In order to avoid damaging the facilities at home, you will also do the work of electrification!"

The boy said, "Of course, you are so clumsy!"

The girl glared at the boy, and then said: "The man is the master, so the work of dealing with outsiders is also entrusted to you!"

The boy thought about it carefully, how else can he deal with outsiders in housework?So he nodded and said, "Okay!"

"That is to say," the girl smiled wickedly, "buying vegetables, paying utility bills, picking up newspapers...these are all your business!"

The boy was taken aback, "You have to buy vegetables anyway..."

"You promised everything, and it doesn't count if you can't speak!" The girl became serious.

"Okay, okay, no more!"

"What's the rush! There's a lot of oily smoke in the kitchen, you don't want me to enter the age of wrinkled face in advance! Then I won't be ashamed to see others, so I can only stay at home!"

The boy opened his mouth wide: "So..."

"So, you have to do the cooking!"

"What about you? What are you doing?"

The girl smiled and leaned on the boy and said: "I have a lot to do. I will accompany you when you are working and supervise the quality of your work. I will praise you if you do a good job! You have done well enough, maybe I will reward you." After speaking, he gave the boy the most "vixen" wink.

The boy is very helpless, there is no way, who let him marry such a domineering wife!I'm used to it.

Just imagine, if a girl tells a boy from the beginning that she doesn't want to do any housework, the boy may not agree, but at least negotiate with her and ask her to do at least one or two housework.The smart girl's approach not only gave herself a high-sounding reason not to do housework, but also made it difficult for her husband to refuse.

Girls are bad because they unconsciously turn "unreasonable" demands into "reasonable" demands. She knows that men don't want their wives to do dirty and tiring work, and they don't want their wives to deal with outsiders often and be "outsiders". , and I don't want my wife to age prematurely and have wrinkles on her face.Therefore, it seems reasonable for girls to be domineering, and men naturally have nothing to justify, so they have to accept it!Because, a smart woman knows that while being domineering, she must also be gentle and considerate.She will give him the right to speak, and patiently listen to him finish his speech. Maybe what he said is irrelevant, complaining, or complaining, but she will also show the greatest interest and listen to him with a smile on his face.She understands that sometimes his arrangements may be out of unavoidable difficulties, and she believes that he arranged an appointment with a client on her birthday, not because he doesn't care or doesn't value it, so she needs to show understanding to him and tell him that if she celebrates another day, she will be very happy.Even if she disagreed with his decision, she would not veto him on the spot. She knew that men are animals that care about face, so give him a buffer and let him know that she has some different opinions.She will try to inquire as little as possible about his work affairs. She knows that he will tell herself if there are any troubles he can't handle. Don't always speak ill of his boss or employees in front of him. Very uncomfortable.

Bad girls know how to say no

There are some men in front of women, it can be said that given a little sunshine, they will be brilliant, and given a little flood, they will flood.They take men as fearful of stalking and women as their guiding ideology, 1% of hope requires 99% of their determination to work hard, and adopt a relentless approach to women, stalking and chasing them relentlessly.

No matter what purpose such a man has for a woman, it is done in the name of care or love, and the purpose is to turn the woman into his own lamb.

In this regard, "bad" women can see clearly, because they have their own bottom line in life. Above their own bottom line, they can accept and tolerate what other people say and do, and they will not be too serious, lest others take themselves seriously. Treat yourself as an unapproachable and unkind Miejue Shitai, and keep a respectful distance from yourself.

However, once other people's requirements for a "bad" woman break through her bottom line, the "bad" woman will definitely have the courage to express her point of view straightforwardly, and will not leave any room for it.Doing so may cause embarrassment to the other party and make the other party lose face, but she is not afraid that the other party will say that she is ignorant of flattery, the reason is simple, she does not want to waste time and feelings with such a person.It is the best way to throw away those who are not worth cherishing.

And good girls may jump into the trap carefully designed by men.Good girls are generally more reserved when speaking, and they will choose to refuse when they are very reluctant, but they are used to finding an ambiguous and euphemistic wording, because they feel that speaking implicitly is like making a beautiful kit for the language , even if it is very cruel, because of the packaging of the kit, there is still a buffer time for the other party to accept this cruelty, without being heartbroken.

Therefore, the tactful expression seems to be beneficial to soothe the other party's body and mind, and not make the other party's sadness come so quickly.But because of the tactful way of speaking, one sentence can be understood in many ways.Even if the other party already understood what the good girl meant, because the good girl didn't refuse, he would pretend to be stupid and continue to pester her, making the good girl very annoying, and he couldn't tell.I pin my liberation on the man's self-awareness and self-knowledge, but the man still feels good about himself.

Zihan is a lively and lovely girl who is very popular with boys. She maintains a pure friendship with a boy named Xiaohang, but Xiaohang has a deep love for Zihan.Usually, Xiaohang takes good care of Zihan, if there is any need for help, as long as Zihan says a word, Xiaohang will arrive at the first time and settle the matter.Zihan also felt Xiaohang's feelings for her, but she just regarded Xiaohang as an ordinary friend, there was no other meaning, besides, she already had someone she liked.Zihan always wanted to find a time to tell Xiaohang what she wanted.

On a moonlit night, Xiaohang invites Zihan to the cafe.Sitting at a round table in an open-air cafe, sipping fragrant coffee, Xiaohang suddenly held Zihan's hand with both hands, and said excitedly: "Would you like to be my girlfriend?" Zihan immediately reacted, shallow Qianji Yiling said: "Aren't I your 'girlfriend'?" Xiaohang looked at her in surprise, Zihan said: "We are friends, and I am a girl, of course I am yours' Girlfriend' la!" Xiaohang understood the meaning of Zihan's words, but still held onto her hand and said, "Yes, yes!"

Zihan thought that Xiaohang would give up when she understood what she meant, but she didn't expect that in the days to come, Xiaohang would "intensify" and "chase" her closely.Zihan was very troubled by this.

A good girl like Zihan feels that directly rejecting others is too hurtful, too embarrassing, and even a bit cruel to the other party, so she tactfully states her thoughts.But you are tactful, and the other party thinks that you still have friendship with yourself, so you do everything possible to dispel your "rejection". Even if you meet your favorite love partner, he may jump out: "I am his senior boyfriend. You'd better retreat in front of me, a senior!" Letting you pass new love affairs repeatedly.

Furthermore, because you refused more tactfully.The other party thought that you gave him the chance to realize his dream, so he chased after you until he waited for the day when "sincerity and sincerity will make gold and stone open", but what he finally waited for was "NO". The other party whose dreams were shattered not only He won't appreciate your deliberate reservation, but will blame you for giving wrong hints and making him chase so hard.

Any trouble starts from small to big. If a woman can't express her true thoughts decisively, she delays again and again, and finally the big tail can't get rid of. If she fails, she will have to pay for herself.Don't expect all men to be gentlemen. In the end, men don't get anything back because they spend too much time, energy, and material. It's not so easy to let him go.

Therefore, to express one's reluctance and refusal tactfully, although Tai Chi is adopted, there will be endless troubles.Therefore, "bad" women like to express their ideas straightforwardly, and at the moment when the other party first expresses their thoughts, they use a "no" to cut off all the fantasies of the other party.Bad girls know that being direct is not about saying no with a cold face.Although I want to speak out my thoughts directly, but it is not to tell the other party with glaring eyes-please don't wishful thinking!The point of being straightforward is to prevent the other party from misunderstanding your euphemism and chasing after you, not to make the other party hate yourself with gnashing teeth, so "bad" women will send the word "no" to the other party with the most unavoidable emotion eardrum.

In this way, even if her straightforwardness caused a devastating blow to the other party's body and mind, the other party would attribute this cruelty to her helplessness rather than her deliberate intentions, so they would not hold resentment in the long time to come. He stared hard at her.

beauty, you have to show it
Chinese people have always paid attention to "modesty", and for women, it is even more advocating to be subtle.For a woman who only wants to work and doesn't want to go home to wash her hands and make soup, you must not passively wait for Bole to come to discover your talent, but should show your expertise in front of the right person at the right time and place, and show yourself , let people know you and remember you, so that you will have a chance of success; otherwise, I am afraid that you will have to cherish your unknown talent until your teeth are shaken and you are old, and you will live a life of regret.

"Self-promotion" is a rather difficult course. Everyone knows the method, but it's not easy to know how to behave.If there is a slight mistake, it will be self-defeating and destroy its original image.Therefore, you might as well observe more people who are good at self-promotion, and write down your experience to practice at any time. Naturally, practice makes perfect, and you will become a master of "self-promotion".

Once, the great director Li Hanxiang was looking for an actor suitable to play Li Xianglan, and Bai Bingbing recommended himself to play the role. Later, the whole incident has come to an end. Although Bai Bingbing was not selected, her proactive actions are impressive.This strong sense of participation has won her many acting opportunities.For example, the movie "Lonely Hearts Club" invited her to be the heroine, which made her acting career take a big step forward.

Coincidentally, Hong Kong actress Weng Meiling, who was once popular in Hong Kong, Taiwan and mainland China for playing the role of Huang Rong, also embarked on the avenue of stardom by successfully promoting herself.Back then, after Weng Meiling won Miss Hong Kong of the Year, she decided to embark on an acting career.But it has been suffering from no chance.Later, a film and television company wanted to cast "The Legend of the Condor Heroes" and searched for actors with great fanfare.At the beginning, the director wanted Weng Meiling to play the role of Huang Rong, but after meeting, he felt that Weng Meiling was too short, so he had to find another beauty.However, Weng Meiling was not discouraged by this. On the day when the director made the final decision at a location, Weng Meiling appeared on the scene in disguise.I saw her holding wicker in her hand, dressed in rags, performing a few brisk martial arts moves by herself.His charming demeanor and lifelike performance won the director's favor on the spot, and he naturally got the role.

Originally a singer, Xie Lijin, who became popular for playing the role of "Lai Xiaoman" in the [-] o'clock TV series "Huanxilou", is also a person who knows how to actively promote herself.When she first entered the music scene, Xie Lijin did not deny that she had a strong interest in writing and was willing to write for magazines. Her fluent writing style won a lot of praise and applause. The role of "Lai Xiaoman" was also won by her hard work.And this performance also brought a great turning point for her acting career.later.Xie Lijin found that she looks quite similar to the Japanese star Isshiki Saei, so when an international beverage manufacturer with Isshiki Saei as its product spokesperson planned to release products in Taiwan, this positive little girl once again showed her proactive qualities.Hope to strive to become the spokesperson of Taiwan commercials.

Striving for opportunities for yourself is only the first step in self-promotion. How to multiply your achievements based on your current achievements is the highest purpose of "self-promotion".Taiwanese writer Qiong Yao can be said to be a master.

Qiong Yao's novels are beautiful and romantic, with beautiful words. They have been popular in Taiwan since the 60s and [-]s of last century. Almost every girl who has a dream in her heart has read Qiong Yao's love novels.Later, Qiong Yao put her work on the screen and made it into a movie, pushing herself to the crowd again, and her readers doubled, which established Qiong Yao's undefeated position in the literary world.

With the change of audience's taste, Qiong Yao has been silent for a while, but Qiong Yao, who has a precise sense of smell, has turned to develop her works on TV, and really set off a "Qiong Yao whirlwind" again, and her previous works have followed suit. It became popular again, and Qiongyao's popularity has continued to flourish for more than 20 years.With Qiong Yao's waves of promotional activities, her works became best-selling and long-term sellers, earning a lot of money for "Crown".

However, then again, if Qiong Yao's books were not so shocking, twists and turns, even if she had the promotion ability, she would not be able to sell herself to fickle readers.Therefore, before doing "self-promotion", you must first determine whether your strength is sufficient to cope with the current situation, otherwise, it will be embarrassing to wait until the actual operation to embarrass yourself.

Besides, to whom are you going to show yourself, sell yourself?This is also a very important question.It is only useful to master the key people and focus on it; if you are just constantly ingratiating, or showing off your expertise in front of insignificant people.It doesn't help at all, it's just a waste of time.

(End of this chapter)