Men love such a woman: 12 lessons a happy woman must take

Chapter 9 Show your personality.How can a woman have a unique brilliance without personality (2)
When you achieve your goals because of your successful sales, you must restrain your complacency, "Silence is golden", try to do as much as you can, otherwise, there will be some jealous people around you, waiting for the opportunity to pull your back Legs, pull you down from your seat.When your ideals and promises have not been realized, be careful to prevent these problems!

"Peaches and plums don't say anything, and you will form a path" has long been an ancient legend, and the old experience of "wine is not afraid of deep alleys" is no longer effective. Even if you are the emperor's daughter, if you want to get married, you need to get out of the boudoir in the deep palace , Take the initiative to sell yourself and show your beauty.

So how to do it?
Women should learn to show your strengths to the people around you in the right way at the right time and on the right occasion.If you don't want to be a slow-moving product, you must know how to package yourself: clothing, shoes, hairstyles, and grooming.Also change your "packaging" frequently to give people a refreshing feeling.Not only that, bad women will properly display their talents.Although a person's intelligence is multi-faceted, such as oral expression ability, professional ability, versatility, etc., smart villains will always show their intelligence cleverly and without leaving a trace.

Just imagine, how can a woman like this not attract the attention of others, how can she not get the love of others?
Work must be in place, but also be good at performing in front of the boss

Modern society is no longer the era of blindly burying your head and waiting for others to dig.In the new era, everyone should express themselves as much as possible to promote and advocate individuality, instead of silently hiding their names.

Therefore, the slogan of "bad" women is "it is better to take the initiative to attack than to sit and wait". "Bad" women never work in obscurity.Let yourself be buried, and they will do their best to make it public.Especially in front of the boss, they will not put away their weapons because they want to avoid suspicion, but at this time, they will make themselves stand out and let the boss see their efforts and abilities.

Xia Xue is such a naughty girl.

Rainbow and Xia Xue are college classmates and good friends.After graduation, they were lucky enough to be hired by the same foreign company and became colleagues again.

Although they are good friends, they seem to have different styles of doing things: Rainbow is down-to-earth, she will arrive at work on time every day, and the work of the day is not finished, even after get off work, she will stay in the company to do a good job before leaving , she believes that only such a conscientious and meticulous attitude towards work can win the trust and attention of the boss and enable her career to develop.

However, Xia Xue is not so well-behaved. Workers in the company can always see her panting and rushing to the clock-in machine at the last minute of the stipulated time. Talk about the funny plot of yesterday's TV series, and tell that gossip about the headlines in the newspaper.As long as it's not an important job, don't try to get her attention.And when it's off-duty time, no one can stop Xia Xue from going home.

If you think that Xia Xue's performance will be "fired" by the boss sooner or later, then you are wrong.Xia Xue doesn't behave like this every day.Whenever the boss is in the company, her performance is completely different: when she goes to work, she is immersed in her work and no longer chats with her colleagues; when it is time to leave work, everyone has finished their work and packed their things I went home, but Xia Xue, who would usually rush out of the company when it was time to get off work, was seriously busy with work.Through the glass window of the boss's office, Xia Xue could be seen burying her head in a pile of documents.

Everyone knows Xia Xue's tricks.As a good friend, Caihong reminded Xia Xue more than once: focus on work, and don't think about how to please the boss all day long.Rainbow believes that performance can explain everything. The boss is a shrewd person and will not favor Xia Xue because of her performance.

Due to the company's good performance, Xia Xue's department decided to send a few employees to the company's foreign headquarters for study and study. Although there are many places, because the people sent must have certain experience, there is only one place for newcomers.Getting this news made everyone in the department excited, and the only newcomers in the department were Rainbow and Xia Xue.According to the usual performance, there is no doubt that Rainbow was selected.But in the end, Xia Xue's name was on the boss's list.

Caihong couldn't understand the decision of the boss. Xia Xue's performance was obvious to all. Why did she become the lucky one, but her efforts were not recognized.This made Caihong feel devastated, and even had the idea of ​​job-hopping.

In order to celebrate Xia Xue, as a good friend, Rainbow still graciously accepted Xia Xue's invitation.Obviously Rainbow's expression is sullen, and Xia Xue has also seen this. It seems a little inappropriate to show off her luck at this time, but who makes the two of them good friends? Xia Xue has to express her thoughts to Rainbow , which is why Xia Xue is so lucky.

"Yes, you are indeed capable and willing to work hard. You are unique in terms of performance. But you have to understand that our boss does not sit in the office every day to evaluate the performance of employees. His time in the office every week No more than 10 hours. You spent 40 hours or more working hard and didn't impress him, and I just let him keep an eye on me for 10 hours. Maybe this is a bit opportunistic, but after all we We are still newcomers, the boss must pay attention to us before he can understand us.”

Xia Xue saw Rainbow with a somewhat understanding expression.He continued: "Surface skills are indeed a little shameful, but I have to admit that some superficial skills still need to be done, what do you think?"

The friend's earnest words made Rainbow understand her problem.It seems that I really need to change my strategy!

In the workplace, many women, like Rainbow, think that "gold always shines", as long as they work hard and have outstanding performance, it can explain everything.In fact, gold buried in sand does not shine.To attract the attention of the boss and get the approval of the boss, it is right to work hard, but it is also necessary to play some tricks and do some superficial kung fu. This is also a little secret for smart "bad" women to win the favor of the boss!
What's the use of crying, what's the fear of "fired squid"

A woman who is cool enough is calm and calm in times of crisis.She doesn't want to enjoy privileges because of her special status as a woman: when she encounters a crisis, she turns pale with fright, cries bitterly, digs into a man's shoulder, and uses her tears as a weapon to defend herself.She is independent, intelligent, capable, and can conquer adversity with wisdom and charisma.

Shine worked in a foreign company after graduation. He has been working for almost a year and has made some achievements.

Recently, due to fierce competition in the industry, the company's profitability has shown a downward trend. In order to reverse the current situation, the company decided to lay off employees. Shine's department is also among the layoffs.

Unfortunately, Shine and another female colleague became the targets of layoffs.

Learned that he was fired. Both Shine and the female colleague were surprised and sad.How to do it?Just choose a sample and accept fate, or just throw your hands away and leave?
The female colleague walked around indignantly, and first she went to her direct supervisor and complained, from her poor family situation to how serious and responsible she was at work. In short, according to what she said, no one can fire her.The boss can only explain the state of the company and the reasons for the decision.

Knowing that Chieftain can't handle it here, the female colleague came up with many ways, finding someone to intercede with the company's "heavyweight" figures, and even giving gifts, but all ended in failure.The female colleague who had nowhere to go could only accept her fate. In the last period of time, she was also absent-minded at work and lived day by day.

But Shine, who also learned that he would be laid off, behaved completely differently from that female colleague.Knowing that he was about to lose his job, Shine was also sad for several days and didn't know what to do, but the sadness was sad, and the work still had to be done, so he could only do the rest of the work in a down-to-earth manner while looking for other ways out.

In order to keep himself in a good working condition, Shine tried his best to forget about the things he was raped as soon as he arrived at the company every day, and worked seriously and responsibly as usual.Although everyone knows that she is about to leave the company, and they are embarrassed to assign her a heavy workload out of sympathy, but Shine, who can't take time off, will take the initiative to help other colleagues when she is free.

One of Shine's famous sayings is "It's a blessing, not a disaster, and a disaster cannot be avoided".Since layoffs are an unavoidable disaster, the matter has come to this point, there is no point in complaining and slowing down work, it is better to do a good job in a down-to-earth manner.So, in the last period of time, she has been sticking to her post, even doing it more seriously than usual.

One month is up, and the deadline for them to leave their posts is also up.But the boss of the company made a surprising decision: the female colleague resigned according to the original plan, but Shine was kept.

Everyone was surprised by this, the female colleague almost used all her connections but couldn't stay, and Shine stayed unexpectedly without doing anything.

However, the boss's reasons convinced everyone: Shine can stick to his post even when he knows he is going to leave, and is serious and responsible. Such employees are rare, and the company will never have too many such employees!
No one wants to be fired, how should they behave in front of "squid"?

Ask why you were fired.First of all, you must ask yourself why you were fired. This is not to ask your boss what is wrong with your performance, or to point out people who performed worse than you for comparison.It's about really figuring out what's wrong with you, not to argue whether you should be fired this time, but to try to avoid making the same mistakes that affect your future in your career.

Analyze why you were fired.Based on the reason your boss gave you for being fired, analyze the reason why you were fired. It is really because you did not do well enough.Or become a victim of the power struggle of some high-level people.If it is really because of my lack of ability.Then you must recognize the problem and try to correct it in your future work; if you are unfortunately a victim, then don’t blame yourself too much, because after all, the fault is not yours, but you should also pay attention to your interpersonal skills.After all, why not other colleagues were laid off.

defend yourself.After asking why, don't think that this is the end of your career in this company.You should also defend yourself, face unfair dismissal, appeal to your superiors, and at the same time insist on your own rights, such as asking your lawyer friend to come forward... In short, you can't let your boss fire you for no reason.

Find a new starting point in life.If you have to leave this company, don't give up on yourself, stick to the last post, and at the same time find a new way out for yourself. Maybe it is this opportunity of layoffs that allows you to find a more suitable path for development.In short, if you work hard and do well, you will not suffer after all!

Wave.If you want to go, you have to go smartly

"When a person walks in the workplace, how can he not resign?"Most people will not only work in one job for a lifetime, and resignation is a problem that most professionals have to face.Job hopping is not a fleeting phenomenon in the workplace, but a typhoon that will always be strong.Resigning to find another job is no longer a patent for men, but also a good choice for women.

Some people regard job-hopping and resignation as "squids" to fire the boss. They think that it is a chic performance to say "I quit" to the boss viciously in front of everyone, and then walk away with their own things. .This idea is really wrong.

Zhang Miao is the director of the marketing department of a company. The company's salary and development opportunities are good, but there is only one thing, the company's location is too far away from home, Zhang Miao has to leave early and return late every day. On the contrary, Zhang Miao was even more exhausted.After a long time of thinking and weighing, she decided to find a new job not far from home.

Because of Zhang Miao's rich experience and qualifications in this field, she quickly found a job with a satisfactory position and salary.But the new company expects her to be on the job within a week.This made Zhang Miao feel embarrassed.

In the former company, she is in charge of a large-scale product promotion, and in this event, including exhibitions, customer invitations, and detailed product instructions, she is in charge of it, and the product promotion will start next week. If this When Zhang Sen resigns, his colleagues in the original company will definitely be in a hurry. Even if they work overtime for a few days, they will not know the situation better than Zhang Sen. At this time, the promotion of the entire product will definitely have a great impact.

After careful consideration, Zhang Miao insisted on reporting to the new company in one month.She apologized to the new owner and said: "I'm sorry, I must start well and finish well. If I leave like this, it will cause unnecessary losses to the original company. I hope you can understand this. If you want to give up on us because of this I can only express regret for the cooperation between them.” Her responsible attitude towards work won the favor of the new supervisor.He granted her request.

In the last month, Zhang Miao didn't want others to think that she was negligent about her work if she was leaving, so she made preparations and organization more seriously, and the product promotion this time was very successful.

After that, Zhang Miao spent a few days preparing for the handover: sorting out the materials at hand, canceling and taking away the private files in the computer, and properly explaining his project to his subordinates.She also took special care to make a detailed report on the problems existing in her department and the work progress to the boss.

The original boss was very satisfied with Zhang Miao's performance. Not only was she not dissatisfied because of her resignation, but he also gave Zhang Miao a bonus according to the original treatment, which was unexpected by Zhang Miao.

Nowadays, professionals in the workplace can be said to be very good. If they are even slightly dissatisfied with their company, they will leave.For example, the salary is evaporated for no reason, jump!No room to grow, jump!The interpersonal relationship in the office is too complicated, jump!But even if you have thousands of reasons for resigning and 1 dissatisfaction with the company, don't treat the company as a playground and leave as soon as you say it without any explanation. If you do this, the boss may rush to find someone to replace you position, but the busiest one is the colleague who takes over your position, because you have no explanation, he will scramble to sort out the work that should be done and find the appropriate working method.As a result, the whole company, especially the boss and successor, will be dissatisfied with you.

No one can guarantee that this dissatisfaction will not cause trouble for your future work.

Therefore, the correct approach should be to stand on the last post as perfect as possible.Properly handle unfinished work, and hand over the details of work and working methods to the next colleague without hesitation.

Doing the final work seriously shows your character to a certain extent.Even if the original company has treated you badly, it cannot complete the work with a vengeful mentality.On the contrary, if you can show a professional attitude, it will make the original company feel regretful.

In the workplace, resignation and job-hopping are commonplace, and "bad" women will not wrong themselves and do things they don't like. When it's time to leave, she will choose to leave without hesitation.But she has her own principles: when resigning, she should neither be too unfeeling nor sloppy, she should show her own demeanor, leave her own smile, and make a beautiful resignation turn.Indeed, for Huan women, they feel that job-hopping is the same as being a human being, and they pay attention to getting together and getting together.The workplace is very small, if you leave this company, you will still be in the same company in the future, and there will be opportunities for cooperation in the future, so it is better to maintain your usual work style, start well and finish well, and leave with dignity.So, how to come to a beautiful resignation turn around?Bad girls will do it like below.

(1) Inform the superior.Before resigning, you must talk to your supervisor or boss in advance. Do not leave without saying goodbye. It is an extremely irresponsible behavior and will make the company very passive.

(2) Submit your resignation letter.A qualified resignation letter generally must include the following: reasons for resignation, time limit for resignation, handover of work, and polite words to express gratitude to the company.You can also add some personal opinions and suggestions, recommend suitable successors, etc., but the wording and tone must not be too radical.

(3) Do a good job handover.Before the company finds a suitable replacement, it should continue to do its job well and stand on the last post.After the successor comes, you can make a list of your work content and handover items, and fully communicate with the successor until the other party fully understands your work.When handing over, the information in the computer should be properly handled, and all personal information should be taken away, but all documents related to work and the company should be labeled with a name, and must not be deleted or taken away privately.Especially the company's customer information.

(4) Leave formally and gracefully.After finishing the personnel formalities, it's time to officially leave.First of all, before leaving the company, tidy up the environment around you and take away your personal belongings.All the company's information files should be sorted and classified, and confirmed with relevant persons that the information is complete and there are no omissions.In addition, some company certificates, official seals and other items must also be returned.

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